Have you ever noticed that sometimes in military life it seems as though every time you turn around someone or something just keeps getting in the way of your dreams? It may feel like for every idea you have or action you take there is someone out there telling you it can’t be done or how it won’t work. They may even share a suggestion as to how to do it “the right way”.
After church today, I reflected on something the pastor said that really hit home and got my wheels spinning. He was talking about the disconnect that we all have when others tell us how we “should” act and what we “should” do. He went on to discuss that when we let others “mold” us we are actually preventing ourselves from living out our purpose.
And you know me, when the wheels start turning I just can’t let go. So I started looking back and noticed an interesting pattern in my journey. During the times in my life as a military spouse where I have struggled, been stressed out or just plain “messed up”, without exception it’s when others have tried to “convince me” to do something that wasn’t in direct alignment with my purpose. These times were filled with “people pleasing” and wishy-washy boundaries and my thoughts centered around what I “should” be doing, rather than what felt right.
And as I really dig deep I can’t help but notice that during the worst times, I felt manipulated rather than supported.
Now I’m sure there is some psychological explanation, but I know one thing is for certain. During each of these times, I gave my power away, and felt helpless and trapped because of it. Instead of standing strong and acknowledging that I really do know what makes me happy, I allowed others to place their agenda into my life. And the only person who suffered was me. [click to continue reading …]
As I look around the coffee shop I feel as if I’ve turned back the clocks to my college days. I shouldn’t be surprised, it’s that time of the year when finals and final project deadlines are fast approaching and people are focused. Most everyone has their heads buried in a book, but what strikes me most is that many of the people surrounding me are either military spouses, veterans or active duty service members and I’m inspired.
I’m inspired by the military spouse who has set up her 2 little girls with coloring books, the young soldier who is utilizing his educational benefits to prepare for the future and the veteran who is transitioning to a new career. I love the fact that they are all working to improve their lives. But most of all I love that there are programs, universities and financial aid that makes it possible for those in the military community to make their dreams of a better life a reality.
One particular university that steps up and truly gives back to our community is Colorado Technical University. Every year CTU provides full tuition scholarships to 50 eligible wounded service members and spouses of wounded service members. And this year the program has been expanded to include caregivers and non-wounded attendants.
How cool is that? I love that CTU has broadened the eligibility requirements and wanted to pass along the information because you or someone you know may be a perfect candidate!
About the Wounded Warrior Scholarship
In 2008 CTU came together with the Yellow Ribbon Fund, Inc to create the Wounded Warrior Scholarship as a way to give back to service members, their families and caregivers of those injured while serving. (Learn more about the first caregiver recipient and hear her inspiring story here) [click to continue reading …]