As I build my businesses around my military life, I rely on technology to help make up for the fact that I don’t have a brick and mortar location. Whether it’s for the blog, suicide prevention programs or my jewelry obsession creating conversations and building relationships is key to my long-term success in small business. And social media makes it so much easier.

Military Life Smallbiz & TechWhile Facebook is the perfect place to keep in touch with people, I find that for my businesses Twitter and Pinterest are much more effective. Why? Because both offer me the ability to put out a message quickly and drive traffic to a particular website based on the needs of the people. I can utilize marketing services like TailWind (a FANTASTIC service for Pinterest/Instagram) or Hootesuite to help me so I can share information regularly and with a little practice and a “What would make me click on a link” attitude I can connect in a fun way.

The challenge comes in with all the changes to tech and social.

For example according to the Twitter blog (see full post here) over the coming months there will be changes to simplify your military life Tweets including what counts toward your 140 characters!

In summary here’s what will change on Twitter:

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Have you ever noticed that sometimes in military life it seems as though every time you turn around someone or something  just keeps getting in the way of your dreams?  It may feel like for every idea you have or action you take there is someone out there telling you it can’t be done or how it won’t work.  They may even share a suggestion as to how to do it “the right way”.

Military Life: People PleasingAfter church today, I reflected on something the pastor said that really hit home and got my wheels spinning.  He was talking about the disconnect that we all have when others tell us how we “should” act and what we “should” do. He went on to discuss that when we let others “mold” us we are actually preventing ourselves from living out our purpose.

And you know me, when the wheels start turning I just can’t let go. So I started looking back and noticed an interesting pattern in my journey. During the times in my life as a military spouse where I have struggled, been stressed out or just plain “messed up”,  without exception it’s when others have tried to “convince me” to do something that wasn’t in direct alignment with my purpose.  These times were filled with “people pleasing” and wishy-washy boundaries and my thoughts centered around what I “should” be doing, rather than what felt right.

And as I really dig deep I can’t help but notice that during the worst times, I felt manipulated rather than supported.

Now I’m sure there is some psychological explanation, but I know one thing is for certain.  During each of these times, I gave my power away, and felt helpless and trapped because of it.  Instead of standing strong and acknowledging that I really do know what makes me happy, I allowed others to place their agenda into my life. And the only person who suffered was me. [click to continue reading …]


As I look around the coffee shop I feel as if I’ve turned back the clocks to my college days. I shouldn’t be surprised, it’s that time of the year when finals and final project deadlines are fast approaching and people are focused. Most everyone has their heads buried in a book, but what strikes me most is that many of the people surrounding me are either military spouses, veterans or active duty service members and I’m inspired.

Military ScholarshipI’m inspired by the military spouse who has set up her 2 little girls with coloring books, the young soldier who is utilizing his educational benefits to prepare for the future and the veteran who is transitioning to a new career. I love the fact that they are all working to improve their lives. But most of all I love that there are programs, universities and financial aid that makes it possible for those in the military community to make their dreams of a better life a reality.

One particular university that steps up and truly gives back to our community is Colorado Technical University. Every year CTU provides full tuition scholarships to 50 eligible wounded service members and spouses of wounded service members. And this year the program has been expanded to include caregivers and non-wounded attendants.

How cool is that? I love that CTU has broadened the eligibility requirements and wanted to pass along the information because you or someone you know may be a perfect candidate!

About the Wounded Warrior Scholarship

In 2008 CTU came together with the Yellow Ribbon Fund, Inc to create the Wounded Warrior Scholarship as a way to give back to service members, their families and caregivers of those injured while serving. (Learn more about the first caregiver recipient and hear her inspiring story here) [click to continue reading …]


As we kick off Mental Health Awareness Month I want to begin with some insight that my son had over the weekend into how social media really steals the joy from our lives. He shares this piece of writing with me and I was struck by how it opened my eyes to the connection between social media and our military mental health. His excerpt highlights the reality of living with the challenges of depression and how we can feel alone even in a room full of people. I read it and got a loud and clear message that I think we all need to hear. So I ask you…

Military Mental Health Is Social Media

Military Mental Health:
Is Social Media Stealing Your Happiness? by Geoffrey Davis

Sitting at my favorite coffee shop with a group of friends I wonder why I feel so alone. Why do I feel like I’m the only one who wants to be here? I’m surrounded by my best friends who are absent of mind all who seem to be controlled by this small rectangle in their hands that seems to dictate what we are doing at all times. As I look around the table,  I see that I’m the only one who isn’t staring at this little screen in my hand and can’t help but wonder if there is something wrong with me.

Being someone who has depression and PTSD, I get that there will always be this little voice in the back of my head that tells me I’m not good enough, that no one likes me. It’s as if that voice is just lying there waiting for the perfect moment to strike, and seeing the people i really care about sitting across from me, but at the same time somewhere else entirely, gives that voice a chance to have a field day in my head.  I have come to the realization that these types of thoughts will never go away. I know its something I will have to live with for the  rest of my life and I’m okay with that. Better yet I’ve come to terms with it. [click to continue reading …]