Walk your way to Success…

by Judy Davis on July 10, 2014

MB900442363 success happiness I want you to think about something…

When you were a little child, you got it in your head that you wanted to walk.

So, little by little, you worked on developing the skills you needed to walk. You grabbed on to something and pulled yourself upright. You stood up, holding on to a table or chair . Wobbly and unsure, you let go, fell down, You had cheerleaders …but you managed only one step-and you crashed.

After days of falling, you took Baby steps. One at a time. And suddenly you were WALKING!

In the process of learning how to walk, you probably spent more time failing than you did succeeding. But did you ever have the thought of quitting? Did you ever tell yourself, “I’m not cut out for walking-guess I’ll crawl for the rest of my life?” No, of course you didn’t. So, why is it so easy to do that now? Why is it easier to give up than to keep going?

Have you ever wanted to accomplish something, and well it didn’t happen? You may have even set a goal, and then “changed it” down the road when it wasn’t happening fast enough. Maybe you know someone who works really hard, but just never seems to get anywhere, maybe that person is YOU?

Somewhere along the way, we became unwilling to take baby steps. We lost faith in the universal truth that the simple little disciplines done again and again over time would bring about success.  We expect to “make a wish”, “set an intention or a goal” and in the snap of our fingers, things should materialize.  But that’s not the way things work.

In order to be successful, it’s like learning how to walk.  You will fall, you will get tired and you may even decide to take it slow for a little while….but the only way to accomplish anything is to do the little things day in and day out that build your skills and grow your confidence.  And when you are “ready”, you will walk.

And they funny thing is….once you do, you will have the desire to run!  Success is like that you know!


18 pack21 021514 tm 300x264 life balance happiness deployment Over the last few days I’ve found myself wondering why. Why the upheaval in Iraq. Why did that person share such a thing on social media. Why did she get cancer? Why Why Why…it was like a 2 year old just discovering the world around them and I couldn’t stop it.

And then I heard a speaker who shared something that really hit home for me. Something that ultimately put an end to the WHY mantra going on in my head.  She said

Growth moves us from “why did this happen to me” to “how can I learn through this experience”

As many of you know, deployment is the one side of Army life that I could do without.  And the other day, when our Brigade got the word that many of our troops (not including my hubby) would be coming home early I cried. I’m still not sure why I cried, and it wasn’t pretty….I mean it isn’t like we didn’t know that his deployment was for 12 months, but in that instant it was as if I split into 2 people.

Person one was the “direction diva Judy” positive, happy and encouraged that soldiers would be coming home to their families and that the situation “over there” was allowing it. I was happy that my neighbors hubby’s would be home so soon. I was happy that others could end the stress of deployment quickly and have something good to think about as they went to sleep last night. I saw all the positive outcomes that this news brought with it.

And then Person two emerged…I was the “normal Judy” who asked why about EVERYTHING.  Why aren’t our guys ”on the list”, why do they still need some of them, why are we in this war, why are there terrorists, why are deployments 12 months anyway…you name it I wanted to know WHY!  And the selfish, whiner in me was shouting “It’s not fair”, they ALL should be coming home together. And all I could feel was how I (not my hubby, not anyone else…just me) was getting the shaft.  It was if they personally chose to mess with MY world….

But when that speaker challenged us with her words, I got it. Loud and clear as if someone was standing in front of my and threw a cold bucket of water in my face. And I became person one again!  I got that our part in this wasn’t finished.  I got that I had an opportunity, and I got that things are just as they were meant to be.

This deployment has made me stronger. It has made me realize how amazingly blessed I am to share my life with such an incredible man.  It has shown me more about what I am capable of than any other experience I have had, and I know I am still learning. It’s given my children life lessons that they will have forever.  It has allowed me to have a pride in our freedom that I’ve never had before. And in a strange way the distance has made things very clear and brought us closer as it forced us to grow individually and as a family.

Growth isn’t easy, and it’s ok to have a hissy fit every now and again (at least that’s what I’m telling myself anyway).  But once the fog cleared, I realized that the most important thing to do was to learn from the new developments, use this experience and search for the lessons in it.

Life will always throw us a curve ball, but it’s how we choke up and swing that determines whether or not we hit it out of the park….

P.S. Just wanted to let you know that this piece was written (and lost in cyber space until now) during my husbands last deployment icon smile life balance happiness deployment !


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