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Military Life: 11 Realities Our Community Needs To Remember

Within the last couple of weeks there has been a huge issue going on within the military community. Some would say it started with an article written by an insensitive reporter who doesn’t get what it’s like to be a military spouse or live the military life. Others would say it’s yet another attack on the  “dependopatomus” image.

The issue? Bullying. Bullying and like I’ve mentioned in this post on Gossip – it has to stop.

There is a group of people who take every opportunity to bash military spouses calling them whiners who complain to much about a lifestyle they knew would be challenging. Newsflash to these people – even if we knew that military life was tough we would do it all over again, because when you love someone you support them in living out there dreams. And sometimes that is difficult.

But that’s not the point of this post. The point is that everyone has challenges  – military and civilian alike – but sadly instead of coming together we as a community are our own worst enemy. As in this issue too often we comment and share posts that tear down one of our own instead of supporting them in getting the skills they need to deal with and cope. And it’s the opposite of what we should be doing. We should be understanding and tolerant. (I mean who hasn’t had one of those days)

A few years ago I ran across these 11 “realities” that I think would really help us all be more supportive of one another.  They are 11 realities we need to remember and apply to our lives. I love them because they are perfect for those times when we need a bit of perspective – like today:

11 Realities We Need to Remember about military life:

1. There are at least two people in this world that you would die for.

2. At least 15 people in this world love you in some way.

3. The only reason anyone would ever hate you is because they want to be just like you.

4. A smile from you can bring happiness to anyone, even if they don’t like you.

5. Every night, SOMEONE thinks about you before they go to sleep.

6. You mean the world to someone.

7. You are special and unique.

8. Someone that you don’t even know exists loves you.

9. When you make the biggest mistake ever, something good comes from it.

10. When you think the world has turned its back on you take another look.

11. Always remember the compliments you received.. Forget about the rude remarks.


~Judy Davis, the Direction Diva is a motivational speaker, author and lifestyle blogger as well as a military life and teen suicide prevention expert. Co-founder of DASIUM, Judy’s books Right Side Up  and Warning Signs: Is Your Teen at Riskare go to resources for families and her websites are filled with tips, inspiration and resources for those looking for direction. Connect with Judy at

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