• 11 Tips to Reduce Stress and Become Worry Free!

  • Stress and worry are perhaps the biggest stumbling blocks when it comes to moving toward a life filled with success and happiness.  It’s easy to say you want to reduce stress, but how do you actually do that? I have found that the easiest way to stop worry is to focus on simple action steps that you are willing and able to do (I mean if you aren’t going to follow thru then why bother in the first place right?) I have put together the following 11 tips and practical suggestions that I use to reduce the stress in my like and I hope it will help you get relief from the stress & worry in your life!

    11 tips to reduce stress and keep your life worry free!

    1. See The big picture. Sometimes, we get our priorities in life all mixed up and get worked up over things that are really not so essential in the long run. Ask yourself if what you are worried about is really worth all the trouble. More than likely you are so focused on the things that cause the stress rather than keeping your focus on what is working in your life.  When you do this you aren’t seeing the big picture and your happiness suffers.
    2. Shift your Focus. If you are feeling anxious, try to take your mind off your immediate concern, even if it’s only for a little while. Shift your focus to something more positive and you will instantly feel calmer and more energized.  You can always go back to the problem at hand and when you do you will find that you are able to think a lot clearer and may even be open to seeing new solutions and possibilities.
    3. Find the true Perspective. Sometimes when we are facing problems or are under a great deal of stress, we feel as if our life is actually worse off than anybody else’s. It’s easy to see all the “shoulds” and head down the road to no-where-land. But it doesn’t have to be that way.  If you allow yourself to take a really good look around, leave the judgement and “shoulds” behind,  you will find that you will soon be able to get a true perspective about what is really going on. You can come to the conclusion that while you may have some big issues to deal with, you have the strength and insight to conquer anything life throws at you.
    4. Breathe.  Take some deep breaths.  The increased oxygen and the physical act of breathing deeply relaxes your mind and your body.
    5. Exercise. Exercise as much as you can. There are very few things that can help you as much as a good workout can. You can select whatever exercise suits you best – from aerobics to kickboxing to jogging or a game of tennis, maybe even yoga. Any one of these will help you to naturally reduce endorphins and lighten your mood, making you feel more positive and able to deal with whatever problem you are facing.
    6. Stop and Do-over technique. If at times you are feeling extremely anxious or stressed out, stop for a minute and clear your mind of all thoughts. Say out loud “Stop” and proceed to begin to “do-over” whatever is causing your anxiety and stress. This simple stopping technique “re-sets” your thought patterns and your priorities, and will not only give you the strength to begin to feel more energized but allow you to focus and deal with what’s really going on.
    7. Learn to let go. No one can really be prepared for every situation or event that comes up in their lives. And sometimes, even after careful planning, your life takes an unexpected turn.  Understanding that you can let go and look at the situation as just an unexpected turn makes things easier to deal with. Do not read more into it, do not play the what if or blaming game, let go of the thoughts and stories that feed anything that isn’t in your highest good.
    8. Go Outside!  Spend some time with nature. Take some walks in nature parks or conservation parks to relax yourself.  Being outside renews your spirit and relaxes your mind!
    9. Change the “toxic” chatter. So often when we are stressed, what we say to ourselves and the thoughts in our minds can be really damaging.  Replace negatives chatter with positive. Instead of viewing every event as a setback view it positively. Find the good in a situation and focus on that!  If your child is sick and you have to be home with her, do not be upset but take this as an opportunity to spend some quality time with her.
    10. Connect. Prayer and Meditation are simple things you can do which will help you to ease your mind and find strength. When you are feeling overwhelmed with nervousness or anxiety, just take a few minutes and connect. Clear your mind of all your troubles and concentrate on something positive and let go. In doing so, you will feel stronger, at peace and in a better frame of mind.
    11. Find that happy place. Our minds are amazing things, and can take us away from the stress to the sunny beaches of Fiji in the blink of an instant.  Known as positive visualization, our minds can actually help us to “escape” a particular moment by thinking of a happy and peaceful place. This simple technique will stir up happy positive feelings and create a chemical response in your body as if you were actually there!

     

    ~Judy Davis, the Direction Diva is a motivational speaker, author and lifestyle blogger as well as a military life and teen suicide prevention expert. Co-founder of DASIUM, Judy’s books Right Side Up  and I are go to resources for families and her websites are filled with tips, inspiration and resources for those looking for direction. Connect with Judy at TheDirectionDiva.com

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