• 2 Simple Tips Every Small Business Owner and Entrepreneur NEEDS Right Now!

  • I know that for my military family, living in the realm of Judy can’t be easy. I am the ever ready bunny and I am a small business owner and entrepreneur. I work hard to balance the crazy and I survive my daily life with a to do list a mile long. Truth be told I’m horrible at slowing down long enough to appreciate the little things in my life and this can mess with my world. Truth be told I am the kind of entrepreneur who tends to dive into my work with laser focus letting everything else slide – even my personal life.

              What about you? What happens to your small business
    and personal life when things get busy?
    (tell me in the comments or pop me a tweet at @JDavis55)

    As entrepreneurs it’s easy to let our lives fall by the way side because we are passionate about what we do and it’s important to us. But we must find a balance and we must turn it off, close up shop and make time for you, your family and your life.

    I have a question for you…

    When thinking about your business when do you turn it off?

    Will it be when you hit $1M in sales, when you have a staff, when your book becomes a best seller? Will it be when you have enough money to send your child to college or take that great family vacation? When will you be satisfied?

    A few months ago my husband posed this same question to me in a heated argument that transpired when we were going over our fall schedules. And I didn’t have a clue….

    For me there is always an internal struggle going on. Inside my brain it’s a tug of war between a mindset of grow, grow, faster, faster, more, more and my need to support and keep my family strong. I wish I could say differently, but often my business (the beast as my husband refers to it) wins and completely consumes my life and while I know I should turn it off more often than I do, I just can’t.

    I want a business that is thriving AND I want a healthy strong family life.

    YES I want it ALL!

    But to have it all you pay a price, and sometimes it’s much bigger than you bargained for. Being an entrepreneur for most of my life, I have learned there is always going to be a next project and a next business, and the sooner I began to turn it off, the happier my family (and I) became.

    So what can you do to turn it off?

    Here are 2 simple tips every small business owner and entrepreneur needs right now!

    1. Set strict (well ok for the most part strict) hours of operation for your business and let your family know what they are. Encourage them to leave you to your work when you are “open” and hold you accountable when it’s past closing time. (All about that Win – Win!)
    2. Get 2 phone lines: One for business and one for personal. Best thing I ever did for helping find that sweet spot of balancing my business life and my personal life was getting that new personal cell phone line!
      • BONUS TIP: Let the business phone be the ONLY one with your social media platforms, and switch it to silent except during your hours of operation or a special occasion. (I know I lost some of you with the bonus but try it and see that the world doesn’t end if you miss a post!!)

    These 2 simple strategies have taught me that when I’m present in the moment, when my phone is not open and out dinging and buzzing, I am less stressed and I enjoy my family more – and they enjoy me more.

    And isn’t that what it’s all about?

     

    ~Judy Davis, the Direction Diva is a motivational speaker, author and lifestyle blogger as well as a military life and teen suicide prevention expert. Co-founder of DASIUM, Judy’s books Right Side Up  and Warning Signs: Is Your Teen at Riskare go to resources for families and her websites are filled with tips, inspiration and resources for those looking for direction. Connect with Judy at TheDirectionDiva.com

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