A few days ago I was chatting with a group of military spouses, a few of whom were in their mid twenties. Our conversation was awesome and we laughed about the craziness of our lives, husbands and the fact that military life is what brought us all together and we shared some incredible bits of advice. I mean where else can you have so many people of different ages, backgrounds, education and careers with so much in common?
At one point one of the girls asked me, “what do you wish you would have known when you were my age”? At the time I talked about being a mom and not sweating the small stuff, but the conversation got me thinking… At 25 I had just met the man who would become my husband, had a rewarding career and was on my own for the first time. Looking back there are lots of things I wish I knew that would have made things much easier, but here are the some bits of advice I can share!
Military Life: 20 Amazing Bits of Advice I Wish I knew
- You can make a living doing a lot of things, choose something that gets you excited to get out of bed.
- Money doesn’t solve everything, BUT not having enough for the basics does cause an incredible amount of stress.
- You will screw up and it won’t be the end of the world.
- Having a few close friends is more important than an active social life.
- Not everyone is going to like you and that’s more than ok.
- Spend more time with your parents, no matter how busy you are or how challenging it may be. They will be gone too soon and you will wish you took the time when you had the chance.
- Be comfortable with who you are and the choices you make.
- No one else has to live your life so don’t give them power over it.
- Being right isn’t as important as you think it is.
- You will get more joy from helping others than anything else.
- A positive attitude goes a long way
- Challenges always seem worse at night – a new day often brings strength, insight and a fresh perspective.
- You are harder on yourself than anyone else will ever be.
- A little kindness and an open mind make life a whole lot easier.
- The act of forgiveness is more for you than the person you are forgiving.
- Don’t be too busy seeking “success” that you forget to have fun.
- More isn’t always better.
- Learn that there is a difference between needs and wants.
- Remember that no one owes you anything – not your parents, your spouse, your employer, the military, the person behind the counter – no one.
- Understand that the grass is rarely greener on the other side of the fence – strive to thrive where you are.
What bits of advice would you add to this list?
~Judy Davis, the Direction Diva is a motivational speaker, author and lifestyle blogger as well as a military life and teen suicide prevention expert. Co-founder of DASIUM, Judy’s books Right Side Up and Warning Signs: Is Your Teen at Riskare go to resources for families and her websites are filled with tips, inspiration and resources for those looking for direction. Connect with Judy at TheDirectionDiva.com