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3 Steps to Getting Your Military Life Back on Track

Do you feel as though you’ve lost your way? Perhaps it seems as if you’re going in circles and don’t know what to do. Maybe you’re just tired of the same old grind, or know you were meant for more than this. Today, more than any other time in history, people are dissatisfied with their military life. Are things really that much different? Are they any harder? Or is there something else at work?

When most people say their lives are a mess, they begin looking for the thing that caused everything to slip away. Was it their finances, their jobs, their relationships, their stress level? Was there a cause at all? People spend countless hours looking to find the reasons for their bad luck. They read countless self-help books looking for the answers. What if it wasn’t something you did? What if it wasn’t something that happened to you? What if you could get back on track by doing something simple? The truth is that you can and these 3 key steps will help you!

3 Steps to Getting Your Life Back on Track

Step #1: Remove Your Ego
Have you ever been in the car with someone who won’t admit they’re lost? It’s frustrating. You know they need to ask for directions but they just won’t put their ego aside to do so.

Life is much like that. We get angry, start blaming others, and become frustrated when things aren’t unfolding according to our plan. But what if we just put our ego aside and asked for directions wouldn’t we could get back on track to where we want to go so much faster? What if the key to moving forward in your life is as simple as understanding that somehow you’ve lost your way and all you need to do is merely stop and ask for directions? If we could learn to put our ego aside, give our self permission to learn and grow we would be surprised at how much simpler things would become!

Step #2: Take action “One Moment at a Time”
Now you may be sitting there thinking, “How can one moment change my life? If it was that simple, wouldn’t I be doing it?”

Maybe, maybe not. Look at the countless people who drive around for hours rather than asking for directions. They may eventually get to their destination, but after a lot of stress, anger and unhappiness. So many of us are out there “driving around” just like that. We are missing out on opportunities that will get us back on track and we don’t even realize we’re lost. Perhaps you didn’t get the break at work. Perhaps you didn’t find your knight in shining armor. Perhaps you didn’t learn how to budget your time or money. So what?

No matter what you think you should have done, or wish you learned, you didn’t get to where you are today by accident. You did something to arrive where you are. You made some choice some decision that put you on the path you are on. Even if that something was choosing to do nothing.

Here is the thing, if you aren’t living your ideal life there is only one explanation: Somewhere along the way, you lost your self, you didn’t ask for directions and you aren’t doing what you need to do in the moment to change your life. But that can change right now in this moment, and all you have to do is 1 thing. That’s right one thing that’s all.

Anyone can significantly change their life simply by choosing to take action in any given moment and do one thing differently than ever before. Authors write a book one word at a time. People reach their weight loss goals one pound, one workout at a time. No one snaps their fingers and poof all is right and perfect. The truth is that the only way you can change your life is by taking action one small step at a time.

Step #3 Be True to Self and your path will reveal itself
The concept of changing your life may seem simple and honestly it isn’t hocus pocus. The best way to get back on track is to tune into your true desires and then do something (anything) to shake things up.

You see my definition of why people feel lost is very different from the person who spends a lifetime “finding themselves”. It’s as if they use that quest as an excuse for not taking action and staying right where they are at. When I say someone is lost and needs direction I mean that at some point in their life, they stopped being true to themselves and quit following their own path. You may have done it a piece at a time, or at one powerful moment. But if you think back, you will find a moment in time when things shifted. A time that you chose to act in a way that went against what you knew to be right for you—you chose to listen to the backseat driver who led you away from your destination. You chose not to listen to your instincts and you were not being true to yourself.

So what happens when you do that? You begin to take short cuts. You stop checking your internal map. You begin to wander and eventually you are lost.

Is there a price to wandering? You know the answer to that question. Each time in my life that I didn’t know where my life was headed, I felt hopeless and scared. The funny part was that if I let myself, I always knew when I wasn’t going in the direction of my ideal life. Without exception, every time you ignore who you are or what you want from your life, a little bit of who you are, and what you stand for slips away.

So the next time you feel lost, ask yourself if your day to day actions are in alignment with what you want for your life. My guess is the answer will be no.

The solution to getting things back on track ends with asking yourself, “If I were being true to myself, what would I do differently and which direction would I be heading?”

Taking steps to get back on track is as simple as putting your ego aside, capitalizing on the moments in our lives and being true to ourselves. We all can walk on our ideal path as long as we do so one step at a time.


~Judy Davis, the Direction Diva is a motivational speaker, author and lifestyle blogger as well as a military life and teen suicide prevention expert. Co-founder of DASIUM, Judy’s books Right Side Up  and Warning Signs: Is Your Teen at Riskare go to resources for families and her websites are filled with tips, inspiration and resources for those looking for direction. Connect with Judy at

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