Proactive people create opportunities and make things happen in their lives! Reactive people wait for life to come to them and then usually complain about how unfair things are. In life, we all have the ability to determine how big or small we play the game!!! It all comes down to the choices that we make. Here are 5 tips that will help you play a much BIGGER game.
1. QUIT listening to the voices from your past. You are not your setbacks and failures. Setbacks and failures are critical for our personal growth and maturity. Don’t personalize them!!! Learn from your setbacks and use them to your advantage. Throughout our lives, a lot of “well meaning” people gave us a great deal of bad advice. Many of us still carry around the voices in our heads that tell us to always play it safe and to never do anything that can be viewed by society as impractical. THE EXERCISE…Every time you find yourself listening to a negative voice from the past SNAP YOUR FINGERS and speak a positive message.
2. Surround yourself with WINNERS not whiners. BEWARE of the energy vampires whose mission it is to suck you into their NEVER ENDING drama. Energy vampires rarely have anything positive to say and if you are not talking negatively about people or situations they struggle to follow even the most basic conversation. RUN!!!!! Who are the 5 people that you spend the most time with? These 5 people will have the biggest influence on your life. If you are the smartest person in your group it is time to find a more challenging group. This is called GROWTH! THE EXERCISE…Identify the 5 most POSITIVE people in your life. Call them today and thank them for making a difference. THEY ARE!!!
3.Identify and work with your STRENGTHS. It is a waste of time and energy to work on your weakness’s. Focus on what you excel at and continue to get better in those areas. Your weakness is another person’s strength and their weakness is more than likely a strength of yours. This will allow you to better manage your personal energy and your overall productivity will increase. THE EXERCISE…Identify your 5 greatest strengths and make the decision to become even stronger in those areas.
4.Take 100% responsibility for your life. RUN YOUR RACE!!! Don’t let anyone else determine your destiny. Eliminate excuses from your vocabulary. Eliminate the need to find blame with anyone or any circumstance. You are the CEO of your life. Be proactive in all situations. Seek solutions to the challenges that you face. THE EXERCISE…Make a poster board and write these words on it..IF IT IS GOING TO BE IT IS UP TO ME!!! Place it where you can see it at all times.
5.Watch your language. Your words become your thoughts. Your thoughts become your actions. Your actions become your habits. Choose your words wisely. Eliminate the words BUT, TRY and CAN’T from your vocabulary. The words but and try always preclude an excuse. The word cant means that you are willing to accept defeat in advance. Speak uplifting words to those around you. Go out of your way to offer people compliments. THE EXERCISE..For the next 30 days ask your friends, family and co-workers to hold you accountable each time they hear you say the words but, try or can’t. They will impose a fine each time they hear you use the words but, try or can’t. BUT=$2 TRY=$3 CAN’T= $5. Collect the money in a jar and then donate it to your favorite charity. *That charity will be very grateful!!!
True change takes awareness and practice. I hope that you find this information helpful! Your feedback is appreciated.
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