I know that I’m not the first military spouse who needed to understand that certain things just go with the territory of military life. But for a long time I fought it, got frustrated, and was pretty pissed off every time our schedule had to be rearranged because duty called or someone/something needed my husband’s immediate attention. Instead of feeling supported by the military community (and at times my husband ) I often felt betrayed and alone.
And my bad attitude and victim mentality didn’t help the situation either. I was the victim of a cruel and unfair joke…It wasn’t fair, and I wanted someone to change it, fix it, and make it right. But when that didn’t happen something dawned on me…
Maybe I was missing something I needed to understand about military life. So I asked myself was my attitude causing my problems? Is your attitude causing you problems?
Truth be told, military life can be unfair, and yes, the families often take the brunt of it… AND Yes, it stinks. But it is also the nature of the military beast and the sooner you understand that the simpler things will be. It took me a while, but once I finally realized that if I wanted any chance of surviving this life it was up to me to take control and dig out my best lemonade recipe whenever we got handed some nasty lemons.
Here is what I have come to know (and what you need to understand) about creating your best life while being part of the military community.
6 Facts for Military Life:
Fact: There isn’t a chain of command out there that wants to disrupt your life any more than they want to disrupt their own.
Fact: There are reasons why things are done, and more often than not, you will never know what those reasons are. It’s the military and, you guessed it, it goes with the territory.
Fact: While it may not seem fair, you do have a choice. You can accept your situation, or you can take action to facilitate change; but what won’t help is to whine, gripe, and complain about your life and the challenges that come up.
Fact: No one who views themselves as a victim ever finds real happiness in this life.
Fact: Your mind-set and attitude are directly related to the experiences you will have as a military spouse (both good and bad).
Fact: The opportunities afforded to you as a military spouse do not exist anywhere else, but it’s up to you to take advantage of them.
~Judy Davis, the Direction Diva is a motivational speaker, author and lifestyle blogger as well as a military life and teen suicide prevention expert. Co-founder of DASIUM, Judy’s books Right Side Up and Warning Signs: Is Your Teen at Riskare go to resources for families and her websites are filled with tips, inspiration and resources for those looking for direction. Connect with Judy at TheDirectionDiva.com