If you have listened, watched or chatted by the water cooler, you have probably had your fill listening to how bad our economy is. With the stock market on a downward trend, foreclosure rates rising and well everything else that is going on in the world today, it’s hard to get away from it all.
This morning I had a conversation with a fellow milspouse that got me to thinking about where my attention has been, and how it has affected my thoughts and actions these last few weeks. I realized that by inundating myself with the media’s interpretations and predictions of what is to come, I’ve gotten caught up in the negativity, and in things that don’t have anything to do with me. Yes…I have lost myself AGAIN. Aargh!!
Over the course of the last 10 days, I have found myself listening to the news more, tuning in to conversations I typically wouldn’t and thinking about all the “bad” things that are happening more often than not. I have noticed that when I do so, something awful happens. I become fearful, think about all the “what-ifs”, begin questioning what I am doing with my money and in my businesses. More importantly I realized that I entered into a cycle of thoughts, emotions and stressors that would do me no good.
And the sad part was that the media had done it’s job…grrrr! They have me “tuning in” so that I don’t miss something that might affect my life or be the key to fixing whatever is wrong in the world (as if that is even possible). The media is designed to “help” us by keeping us informed. NO! In actuality they have me thinking in a way that brings me down and makes me focus on all that is wrong in the world. They have me questioning my goals and have me worrying about the future for my children. And frankly my head hurts from all the coverage of drama, tragedy and crisis’!
Before the media “got a hold of me”, I was happily moving forward, making progress towards my goals. But, this little detour that I have been on these past 2 weeks has me searching, questioning and spinning in a way I haven’t done in a long time.
Maybe you feel the same way with how the media portrays our world. So what can we do about it?
We can begin by tuning out the media and getting back on track. We can start to focus on what is going right, and use that to begin to take action that moves us forward. This “economy” doesn’t have to be a distraction, the media doesn’t have to control you, in fact it can be the motivation that keeps you moving no matter what stands in your way.
For me it was the politics and continual coverage of the negative stories surrounding the OK tornadoes that took my focus away from my goals. For you there may be some other catalyst that has you on a detour, but no matter what it is, it is important to get back on your path, and using the following steps can help you do just that.
1. Determine what has taken you off track
2. Make the conscious decision to reduce or eliminate the distraction.
3. Focus on where you want to go, and trust that you can get there.
4. Decide what actions you can take that will refocus your efforts and get you back on track.
5. Take action
6. Notice all that you are doing right and continue to focus on what is working.
~Judy Davis, the Direction Diva is a motivational speaker, author and entrepreneur as well as a military life and teen suicide prevention expert. Co-founder of DASIUM, Judy’s books Right Side Up and Warning Signs: Is Your Teen at Riskare go to resources for families and her websites are filled with tips, inspiration and resources for those looking for direction. Connect with Judy at TheDirectionDiva.com