• 7 Destructive Habits of Incompetent People


    Earlier this week I talked about The Power of Habits  and how they can make or break us in regard to creating success in our lives. We talked about good habits moving us forward, and bad habits holding us back. So when I ran across this article by Michael Lee I had to share it because it talks about destructive habits. And sometimes knowing what NOT to do is a better learning tool than discussing what to do.  So take some time and not only read these words of wisdom :), but make sure these habits aren’t holding you back!

    7 Destructive Habits of Incompetent People

    By Michael Lee

    WARNING! If you want to have a fantastic life, never engage yourself in these 7 deadly habits that incompetent people do.

    Number 1 – They Think, Say, & Do Negative Things.

    Yup. They see problems in every opportunity.

    They complain that the sun is too hot. They cursed the rain for ruining their plans for the day. They blame the wind for ruining their hair.

    They think that everyone is against them. They see the problems but never the solutions.

    Every little bit of difficulty is exaggerated to the point of tragedy. They regard failures as catastrophes. They become discouraged easily instead of learning from their mistakes.

    They never seem to move forward because they’re always afraid to come out of their comfort zones.

    Number 2 – They Act Before They Think.

    They move based on instinct or impulse. If they see something they like, they buy at once without any second thought.

    Then they see something better. They regret & curse for not able to take advantage of the bargain.

    Then they spend & spend again until nothing’s left. They don’t think about the future. What they’re after is the pleasure they will experience at present.

    They don’t think about the consequences. Those who engage in unsafe sex, criminality, and the like are included in this group.

    Number 3 – They Talk Much More Than They Listen

    They want to be the star of the show. So they always engage in talks that would make them heroes, even to the point of lying.

    Oftentimes they are not aware that what they’re saying is not sensible anymore.

    When other people advise them, they close their ears because they’re too proud to admit their mistakes.

    In their mind they’re always correct. They reject suggestions because that will make them feel inferior.

    Number 4 – They Give Up Easily

    Successful people treat failures as stepping stones to success.

    Incompetent ones call it quits upon recognizing the first signs of failure.

    At first, they may be excited to start an endeavor. But then they lose interest fairly quickly, especially when they encounter errors.

    Then they go & search for a new one. Same story & same results. Incompetent people don’t have the persistence to go on and fulfill their dreams.

    Number 5 – They Try to Bring Others Down To Their Level

    Incompetent people envy other successful individuals. Instead of working hard to be like them, these incompetent ones spread rumors and try every dirty trick to bring them down.

    They could’ve asked these successful ones nicely. But no, they’re too proud. They don’t want to ask advise. Moreover, they’re too negative to accomplish anything.

    Number 6 – They Waste Their Time

    They don’t know what to do next. They may just be contented on eating, getting drunk, watching TV, or worse, staring at the blank wall with no thoughts whatsoever to improve their lives.

    It’s perfectly fine to enjoy once in a while. But time should be managed efficiently in order to succeed. There should be a proper balance between work & pleasure.

    Number 7 – They Take the Easy Way Out
    If there are two roads to choose from, incompetent people would choose the wider road with less rewards than the narrower road with much better rewards at the end.

    They don’t want any suffering or hardship. They want a good life.

    What these people don’t know is that what you reap is what you sow. Efforts & action will not go unnoticed.

    If only they would be willing to sacrifice a little, they would be much better off.

    Successful people made it through trials & error. They never give up. They are willing to do everything necessary to achieve what they aspire for in life.

    Michael Lee is the author of the highly acclaimed How To Be An Expert Persuader… In 20 Days or Less. It reveals mind-altering persuasion secrets to greatly enhance your relationships, boost your career and business, and persuade anyone to willingly and eagerly do what you want… without them knowing it.

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