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Military Life: The Countdown to Deployment (Part 2)

Direction Moment:  Sometimes getting lost is the only way to get motivated.

It’s interesting, this week I found myself feeling out of sorts. We are about 10 days into NTC, and I find that I’m feeling a bit lost.  I’m not really sure what is the best use of my time or the direction I’m going, and definitely unsettled where I am.

Work was productive, heck I’ve even launched a new product this week  but it felt awkward. Home life felt like I was just going through the motions and no I’m done. I don’t have the motivation to work out or do anything productive. I found myself feeling lost and wanting my life –our life- back.

I wondered if it was just the fact that my soldier is gone, the looming deployment “crap” going on in my head, or just the idea that this will be my first deployment “alone” now that my kids are off on their own. There are so many things about this “military life” that were tumbling around in my head this week that instead of feeling grounded I felt well………lost.

Have you ever felt that way?  Like you aren’t sure what to do with yourself, even though you have lots to do?  I found myself feeling a bit down, (hey, I may coach and cheer you on to bigger things, but this girl is real too…and yes sirree, I have my “days” just like you do 😉 ) so yesterday I did what I encourage every “DIVA” to do, I got off my butt and got into action.

First off I walked to the mail box (monumental b/c it’s not something we military spouses do everyday….tell me I’m lying ladies I dare ya :)), which led me to take the dog for a walk around the block, which led me to do a short yoga routine, which led me to shower and shave (monumental when our soldiers are gone…again I know you can relate ladies :)).  And I began to feel a little “lighter”…

So I prepared a healthy lunch (no popcorn or cereal for this girl today!) and had some quiet time in prayer and meditation. And then much to my surprise I found that I was actually feeling a bit motivated to do some real work. I had a productive afternoon, caught up on my “to do” list and had time to relax before leaving for a meeting I had that evening.

It’s interesting  that even though I felt lost, I learned that IF I use the techniques I teach, I have the ability to turn things around. By taking action I reinforced the idea that doing something, even when it’s as simple as going to the mailbox, can become the catalyst that shifts our thoughts and changes how we feel.  It can be the thing that moves us forward and changes our life. Doing something actually helped distract me from all twirl and chaos going on in my mind and allowed me to regroup and get back on track.  Kind of cool right!.

It turns out that taking action was actually the “thing” that got me motivated, not the other way around. It’s so easy to get attached to the belief that motivation SHOULD come first, but it isn’t always the case. So often we think we have to be motivated BEFORE we take action, but I found that the “taking action” piece is what finally got me out of my funk and motivated to do more.

So in some weird way, I guess being lost is just the thing that I needed to help me figure out that sometimes we just need to DO SOMETHING when we really don’t feel like it.  And that “doing” can motivate us in a way that helps us turn it all around!

Missed Part 1? Go there now!

~Judy Davis, the Direction Diva is a motivational speaker, author and entrepreneur as well as a military life and teen suicide prevention expert. Co-founder of DASIUM, Judy’s books Right Side Up  and Warning Signs: Is Your Teen at Riskare go to resources for families and her websites are filled with tips, inspiration and resources for those looking for direction. Connect with Judy at


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