• Save Yourself From Drowning!

  • I loved the following quote from Mike Farrow and think it is especially true when it comes to military mental health.  I believe that there comes a point when as a military spouse you realize that if you are going to enjoy this life, the sooner you save yourself and adopt his philosophy of walking away from the drama, the better.

    His quote states:

    “There comes a time in life when you walk away from all the pointless drama and people who create it, and surround yourself with people who make you laugh so hard that you forget the bad and focus on the good. Life is too short to be anything but happy”.~ Mike Farrow

    As a military spouse it’s easy to get caught in the trap of negativity overload, especially if you spend any time watching the news or listening the group who spends their time whining about every little thing. I’d be lying if I said there aren’t times where I still fall into the “gossip vortex” because I don’t always know how best to step away without people taking it personally.

    Why can’t I step away? Why do I sit there and listen?  I don’t know, maybe I worry about hurting someones feelings or making things uncomfortable. Perhaps if its a day like today I’m just too tired to do anything else.  All I know is that in order to save myself and my military mental health state of mind I need to do a better job at “walk away from the drama” each and every time.

    Like the quote suggests, there are times when I get to a point where I know that I must choose to change the people I’m surrounding myself with quickly before I drown. And sometimes that’s hard. But we’ve all been in that moment, that sink or swim moment where we know we must put on our life jacket in order to save ourselves.

    Life is full of choices and there are many different opinions on what choices you should make. But the bottom line is that in order to thrive, especially as a military spouse, you must not let negativity take hold, and I believe that means getting all negativity out of your life completely. Focus on the good, even if you have to search for it, and surround yourself with people who make you laugh.

    Life is to short and the military experience to valuable to hang on to the people who focus on the negativity that can be a part of this lifestyle. So I say  distance yourself from the people who bring you down, and fill your life with those who will build you up. They are out there I promise!



    ~Judy Davis, the Direction Diva is a motivational speaker, author and entrepreneur as well as a military life and teen suicide prevention expert. Co-founder of DASIUM, Judy’s books Right Side Up  and Warning Signs: Is Your Teen at Riskare go to resources for families and her websites are filled with tips, inspiration and resources for those looking for direction. Connect with Judy at TheDirectionDiva.com

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