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    Why People Pleasing Is Ruining Your Life

    Have you ever noticed that sometimes in military life it seems as though every time you turn around someone or something  just keeps getting in the way of your dreams?  It may feel like for every idea you have or action you take there is someone out there telling you it can’t be done or how it won’t work.  They may even share a suggestion as to how to do it “the right way”. After church today, I reflected on something the pastor said that really hit home and got my wheels spinning.  He was talking about the disconnect that we all have when others tell us how we “should” act and what we “should”…

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    Mental Health: Is Social Media Stealing Your Happiness?

    As we kick off Mental Health Awareness Month I want to begin with some insight that my son had over the weekend into how social media really steals the joy from our lives. He shares this piece of writing with me and I was struck by how it opened my eyes to the connection between social media and our military mental health. His excerpt highlights the reality of living with the challenges of depression and how we can feel alone even in a room full of people. I read it and got a loud and clear message that I think we all need to hear. So I ask you… Military Mental Health: Is…

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    Military Life: Are We Alienating The Male Military Spouse?

    I’m inclusive, I reach out to the newcomer, I’m supportive of all military spouses and I love my military life. I’m all of these things; UNTIL I’m not. And today it’s been brought to my attention that without realizing it we have once again alienated the male military spouse. Don’t see it? Neither did I…that is until today. This morning as I was sharing information on a free military spouse event one of my all time favorite military spouse advocates sent me a message with a simple statement. Jeremy Hilton shared: “I’m starting to get the message that men aren’t wanted at these events”. As I read the message I instantly wanted to insure him that…

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    Military Spouse Life: You Are The Glue!

    Last night I attended an event that is part of a week long tradition among the Engineer Regiment. As part of military life and regimental week here on Fort Leonard Wood, military spouse events are as much a part of the weeks powerful lineup as the laying of the wreath ceremony, best sapper competition or the Regimental Ball. And this years Engineer Spouses Night Out didn’t disappoint. While the event was full of laughter and fun it was so much more than that for me – it was a wake up call that I didn’t even know I needed. Up until last night I hadn’t realized that since we PCS’d here to Ft Leonard Wood that I’d been…

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    Military Life: Digging Deep To Find Your Awesome

    Yesterday, after a week away on business, I had the opportunity to do some major people watching at Chicago O’hare. I was exhausted and keeping to myself as I traveled back to my military life when behind me I heard a young couple deep in conversation. I didn’t want to eavesdrop, but I couldn’t help myself, their conversation was so interesting. To sum it up – sometimes we have to dig really deep to reveal our own awesomeness. I don’t know if it was the fact that I was in a sweatshirt and yoga pants sporting a super sexy pigtail or that I was embracing my inner introvert, but I knew awesomeness was so…

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    Fighting the Beast of Addiction

    As a mother of someone in recovery my heart broke today. Not for my son, not for my military family, not even for myself but for every other son and mother out there who continue to fight the beast of addiction. My son was (is – if I’m willing to accept that) addicted to prescription meds and alcohol. Even after 3.5 years of recovery under his belt, I still have a hard time using addict or alcoholic to describe him. My baby is so much more than an addict, in fact if you met him (even at his “bottom”) you probably wouldn’t have suspected the demons he battled. Which is why today my heart was shattered when…