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    10 Things Parents NEED to Know About Raising Kids

    Raising kids is the toughest job you will ever love. Whether you are a military family or not you as a parent will always wonder if you are doing a good job. From the moment you find out that you have a baby on board everything changes. What you eat and drink, even how you think about your future and your entire life.  Then when they are born, you are responsible for another human beings needs. You are responsible for guiding them and showing them everything from how to walk to how to talk. Your children are your biggest worry and your greatest joy. And everything in between. Over the last week I’ve watched…

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    Military Life: 10 Things Service Members Need to Know – From a Milspouse Perspective

    This past weekend I had the privilege of speaking about military life at a National Guard formal event. I spoke to a group of senior leaders sharing some tips and insight that would not only help them do a better job leading soldiers and their families but will save them a lot of grief when it comes to finding that sweet spot between balancing the mission with their personal life. What was interesting is that so many of them came up to me after the presentation stating that they never thought of military spouses as an asset, nor did they consider many of the points I brought up. Which got me thinking that…

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    Military Life: Using Logic to Handle Change More Effectively

    A while back I had the privilege of attending a recognition dinner where a wonderful speaker talked about how to deal with changes that come up in our lives. Immediately I knew that I could apply her brilliance to my military life in so many ways. For me when things are changing my emotions get the best of me and I struggle to get things done. I wander from “project” to “project” never quite finishing anything to completion.  I can’t think, can’t be productive and certainly can’t focus on much of anything. And then I get more stressed because of my lack of activity. As I listened there were tons of great insights, but two things stood…

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    Are You Ready To Be Happy In Military Life?

    I’ll be the first to admit that when I became a military spouse I had no idea how to handle the logistics, change and stress that came with the military life. I was the epitome of fake it ’til you make it and often made things so much harder on myself than they needed to be.  But over the years I’ve gone from overwhelmed and stressed out to resilient in ways I never knew possible. I have felt powerless and learned to overcome situations and challenges and I’ve become stronger.   At my husbands promotion ceremony the other day I was asked what I do besides take care of my military family.…

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    Be a Happy Military Spouse: Honor What’s Important To You

    The other day I was standing in line at our local Starbucks and I was anything but a happy military spouse. As I was trying to decide what to get, I heard a girl talking about how she wished that she had reacted differently in a recent confrontation with a fellow PTO mom. She wished she had spoken her mind and stayed true to what she felt was important rather than giving in to the demands of this other military spouse. Bottom line she was beating herself up because she didn’t honor what was important to her and had reacted differently than she wanted to. Her reactions and the resulting “beat my self up”…

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    Stop Living Your Military Life On Autopilot

    Recently I read a quote by the Greek philosopher Epictetus which not only said one of the most powerful things I have heard in a long time but reminded me to stop living my military life on autopilot.  He shared “It’s not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters”.  So simple, but easily forgotten. As we go through our lives we are often on autopilot, and what happens “to us” dictates how we feel and what actions we take.  But shouldn’t we have more control than that?  I mean we all have the power of free will and choice, so why do we “react” to the world rather…