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How Your Challenges Make You A Stronger Person

Life is full of challenges especially when we are hit with something unexpected. But this Direction Diva is here to tell you that no matter what your challenges are, they will make you a stronger person if you let them. For most of us, when life takes a twist and our daily lives are more difficult than normal, we want to move through the situation quickly. We just want to get it over with and move on – and the sooner the better, right?

How YourOur thoughts begin to focus on how much better life would be if our current situation had never happened in the first place. Sometimes, I wonder if that’s really true.

Would we really be better off if
we never had to deal with life’s challenges?

I know for myself, without exception there has not been one difficult moment or experience that hasn’t helped me grow as a person in the long run.  It may have taken me years to figure out the why, in fact I’m still asking WHY US when it comes to our life in crisis, but I also know that…

I am who I am
BECAUSE of everything that has happened,
not in spite of it.

I watch people spend their energy wishing for a better life, praying that things could be different. But instead of doing something about it, accepting what is or looking for the silver lining, they embrace a victim mentality and continue to do the same things wishing things were different.

They miss the good stuff – the magic that is there if you look hard enough because they spend all their time complaining or silently feeling sorry for themselves.  Now compare that to the people who embrace their “stuff”, the individuals who don’t spend their life wishing.

  • That individual fighting cancer that is smiling and soaking in every moment of every day.
  • The child with a disability that only sees the good in people.
  • The person who lost their job and happily takes the first thing that comes up to so they can feed their kids.

These are the people I look up to and try to emulate. They are strong, happy and moving forward despite the hand they have been dealt.

Those people – you know the one’s you think “have it easy”- don’t. They don’t have less challenges than you do, they just understand that they need to grow from their experiences and let them go…

Now compare that to the person always whining about money, career or their relationships –  ask yourself – do they ALWAYS complain about the same thing? Don’t you just sigh and think…here they go again…? I know I do.

I don’t mean to sound harsh, but until you learn to accept your life – all of it – you can’t move on. And that’s a good thing.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had  to learn the same key lessons over and over because I was to caught up in the life isn’t fair cycle rather than accepting what was and doing something about it. For years I was stuck in the “same crap different day” mindset and spent more time using the excuse that other people had it easier rather than getting off my butt and changing my situation.

For me it was boundaries and balance, for you it may be something different. Life happens and we all have tough times. But those who learn from them and become stronger in spite of them know something that I didn’t.

They know that who they are is a direct result of what they have been through. They embrace that fact, the good, the bad and the ugly and use it to grow stronger. And that… is something to aspire to.

What do you aspire to?

~Judy Davis, the Direction Diva is a motivational speaker, author and lifestyle blogger as well as a military life and teen suicide prevention expert. Co-founder of DASIUM, Judy’s books Right Side Up  and Warning Signs: Is Your Teen at Riskare go to resources for families and her websites are filled with tips, inspiration and resources for those looking for direction. Connect with Judy at


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