OK so a couple of days ago I’m talking to a good friend who has been “feeling” closer to 50 than her 43 years. After a few minutes of chit-chat, and talking about some stuff going on in her life, in true Judy form, I asked her what she was going to do about it. What was her action plan.
What transpired was both hilarious and a big realization for myself….
My friend said she wanted to get control over her health, work on her mindset, increase her energy and see the positive side of life again. So I probed deeper and discovered that she wasn’t doing much of anything to move toward any of these things. She wasn’t reading or listening to things that filled her up, she wasn’t really exercising, and cereal for dinner had become the norm. My friend had sort of become numb to her daily routine. And I could definitely relate.
And then she asked me something, “Judy I realize I’ve only known you for a couple of yrs but Are you for real”? I was like what? What do you mean am I for real?
She went on to say “you are always positive, you always know what to say, and you are so “together”…..YEPPERS you can bet this is the part I found to be the HILARIOUS part of the story. Because ”together” isn’t how you would describe me at various points throughout my life. In fact I am known to “hunkerdown” and become hermit like when things get particularly rough. So together just didn’t fly.
But I realized that her question came from the fact that she didn’t know my full story, sure she knew some, and if you follow this blog you get glimpses of my life, but my full story is VERY real, and well sometimes not so pretty. I’ve come to embrace it, it’s mine, and it’s what got me to where I am today.
As our conversation proceeded, I realized that so many people just like the two of us were questioning all that was happening in their lives. They were “going through the motions” just like we were and then it dawned on me. If you want something different from your life you have to become different! And that difference, that change is a good thing! Taking action to find a way to change your circumstances is a GOOD THING!
So often we really don’t think of change and action as a good thing, change often means that we feel lots of stuff we don’t want to. Fear, stress even some anxiety change stirs things up…..but the truth is that if you continue to do what you were doing when you were younger, it won’t do you much good. Whether it’s a job, your exercise program yada yada….we have to change what we are doing so we can move forward and get what we want.
And maybe that’s why my friend asked if I was “for real”…..I am very open to change, in fact I welcome it. Change is good as long as it is forward moving. To embrace change can be scary, and that fear often stops people from reaching their full potential.
Which brings me to the point of all of this…..Welcome change into your life, and continue to adjust as you go until you get the results you want (all of them).
~Judy Davis, the Direction Diva is a motivational speaker, author and entrepreneur as well as a military life and teen suicide prevention expert. Co-founder of DASIUM, Judy’s books Right Side Up and Warning Signs: Is Your Teen at Riskare go to resources for families and her websites are filled with tips, inspiration and resources for those looking for direction. Connect with Judy at TheDirectionDiva.com
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