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Family Life: Our Secret to Raising Good Kids

For years people have asked me how we did it.

They wanted to know the “tricks” we used to raise our kids to be polite and helpful. They questioned how we taught them to be nice, respectful and friendly.  They marveled at the fact that our kids get along AND still enjoy hanging out with us! And they beg to know our secrets.  And off the top of my head I can’t ever come up with the answer. So I started thinking about it, and bottom line….we listened. Are they perfect? Not at all, but they are good kids!


We Listened:

Our Secret to Raising Good Kids
by Judy Davis

We listened when they were babies and attended to their needs.

We listened when they were toddlers and wanted us to play make believe

We listened when they asked us to read the same story OVER and OVER.

We listened when they were in their formative years and followed through with consequences when the situation called us to.

We listened when they were pre-teens and their attitudes and emotions seemed to transform by the minute.

We listened when they asked us to help or join them in a game, at an event or at something that was important to them.

We listened when they were in their early teens and needed to exert their independence.

We listened when they learned to drive and wanted to know we trusted them.

We listened when they screwed up and needed to explain why.

We listened when they were scared and needed our strength.

We listened when they had decisions to make (even the one’s that seemed so trivial to us, but were important to them).

We listened when they were happy.

We listened when they celebrated.

We listened when they cried.

We listened even when they tried to push us away.

But most importantly we listened when no one else did.

No tricks, no secrets, no magic….our kids are incredible because we listened.

~Judy Davis, the Direction Diva is a motivational speaker, author and entrepreneur as well as a military life and teen suicide prevention expert. Co-founder of DASIUM, Judy’s books Right Side Up  and Warning Signs: Is Your Teen at Riskare go to resources for families and her websites are filled with tips, inspiration and resources for those looking for direction. Connect with Judy at


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