The other day I ran across this following quote that said “Strength does not come from winning. Your struggles develop your strengths. When you go through hardship and decide not to surrender, that is strength” it reminded me that each of us has moments when we need a break. Throughout our military life, there may be times that, well, it’s a struggle to get out of bed. Too many bills, an illness, fussy kids, a missed phone call, gossip—no matter the issue, sometimes it feels like one too many, and we just want to get off this rollercoaster called military life.
What if in fact it was the struggles that actually give us strength, that help us have the courage to catch and handle anything life throws at us? Wouldn’t the hardships be a little easier to get through?
I really believe that every struggle is an opportunity to change things up and make new choices that will move us forward. And what better time to climb out of the rut and push than when the going gets tough? What better way to tell life, “Not today. You won’t break me today—I will get up, stay up and laugh as you try to beat me down.” That’s the attitude that helps us kick the change and chaos that comes with military to the curb isn’t it?
But how do you do that? How do you prevent the chaos and change from breaking you? Here are some simple tips that work for me that I encourage you to try:
- Acknowledge the moment
- Identify what the hardship is TRULY about
- Who was involved
- How did it make you feel
- Write/talk positively about/meditate on the situation
- What action did you take, or wish you would have taken
- Is that action in alignment with your desires
- Is your behavior/attitude helping or hurting
- Identify what could you do different from this moment forward
- Are there opportunities for you to grow as a person
- What can you learn from the hardship and use in the future?
- Is there an action you can do now that will rectify or improve your life right now?
By doing these things, the hardships can’t take over and hold us back, instead we become more powerful because of our ability and the knowledge we have gained through the hardship.
I invite you to look for the opportunity in every struggle. Take the lesson that is yours, and stop beating yourself up about decisions from the past. Develop the skills to analyze where you are today without judgment, and decide to use the experience to make yourself stronger!
~Judy Davis, the Direction Diva is a motivational speaker, author and lifestyle blogger as well as a military life and teen suicide prevention expert. Co-founder of DASIUM, Judy’s books Right Side Up and Warning Signs: Is Your Teen at Riskare go to resources for families and her websites are filled with tips, inspiration and resources for those looking for direction. Connect with Judy at TheDirectionDiva.com