• How are you participating in your life?

  • Never forget that YOU have the ability to CHOOSE how to participate in your life!

    Have you ever felt like your life is in a twirl and you just want things to change? Perhaps it’s a conversation at the water fountain or that you are just tired of dealing with people who see the glass half empty. Maybe something has triggered you, and you find yourself focusing on the junk rather than the possibilities.

    With all the changes happening around us it’s no wonder that many people are feeling this way. From our struggling economy to the increase in our need to “pack” our days full of activity just to get ahead, you may be feeling the pressure!

    Sometimes in our lives, we find ourselves in situations that don’t feel good, and our natural instinct is to “react” rather than stay in a place of choice. We may engage in an argument that doesn’t serve us, or jump to conclusions that aren’t based in truth. No matter how or when it happens it is important to remember that it doesn’t have to be that way.

    And even more important is to remember that you have the power to take a step back and decide if and how you want to participate in what is going on around you.

    Each of us has the ability to choose to be a part of something or not. We can decide not to get involved in situations that take us off track. We can direct where we place our energy & realize we have the power to decide how we will take action.  And when we decide how to participate we have the option to do so in ways that work in our lives and moves us forward.

    So the next time you want out of the twirl, or feel “off” and need to regroup, remember to do the following:

    · Take a step back and determine what it is in your life that is taking you off track

    · Explore where you are wasting time & energy in ways that are not healthy or empowering

    · Choose to change the way in which you participate in the activities, relationships and thought processes that aren’t serving you

    Most importantly, know that you have the ability to participate in your life in a way that will move you forward and have you reaching your dreams; all you have to do is make a conscious choice to do so.


    ~Judy Davis, the Direction Diva is a motivational speaker, author and lifestyle blogger as well as a military life and teen suicide prevention expert. Co-founder of DASIUM, Judy’s books Right Side Up  and Warning Signs: Is Your Teen at Riskare go to resources for families and her websites are filled with tips, inspiration and resources for those looking for direction. Connect with Judy at TheDirectionDiva.com

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