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How Difficult Times Make Us Stronger

“The hardest times are often the ones that make us stronger”.

Why is it that this quote holds so much truth? When we are being true to ourselves, following our dreams or trying to grow personally or professionally, life just seems to get harder doesn’t it?  Over the last few days that’s been the case for many of the people in my life.  They are following their path and being met with obstacles that feel insurmountable. They are overwhelmed to an even greater degree than normal and all of this chaos has got me thinking about the hardest times in my life. As I reflect, it occurs to me that the hardest times in my life have actually made me a stronger person. But why?

Perhaps it’s like when we begin to work out, when we exercise new muscles or change our routine, there is a period of time when things hurt. The lactic acid builds up and it’s painful to do even the simple things like walk or get out of a chair.  But we know that it will be worth it.  We know that all the pain will pay off in the long run. And we know that the reward is that we will be stronger for it.

Maybe change and hard times work the same way.  As we are faced with choices and challenges, sometimes they can be harder and cause more pain than maintaining the status quo.  But I think that over time, as we keep “working”,  the rewards become greater, and that pain begins to subside.  And it is in those moments that we get stronger.  We learn that the extra effort is worthwhile.  And we see that we can do more than we ever thought possible.

I really do think that the hardest times in our lives are when by choice or circumstance we follow a new path and are forced to create our own “workout” if you will. When we stain and push ourselves to venture out in unmarked territory new “muscles” are formed and we become stronger.  It’s during those times that we learn new things, challenge ourselves and become stronger.  And while sometimes that’s painful, when we push through barriers and self-impossed limitations, we are rewarded in ways we never anticipated.

So I guess the challenges and pain that come from being true to ourselves and following the dreams in our heart are really just an indicator that we are getting stronger…and strength is good.


~Judy Davis, the Direction Diva is a motivational speaker, author and lifestyle blogger as well as a military life and teen suicide prevention expert. Co-founder of DASIUM, Judy’s books Right Side Up  and Warning Signs: Is Your Teen at Riskare go to resources for families and her websites are filled with tips, inspiration and resources for those looking for direction. Connect with Judy at

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