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Military Life: I Give To You My Son (The plight of a Military Mom)

So often I talk with, speak to and console other military spouses as we send our husbands off to fight.  But yesterday a friend of mine from our previous unit did something that I’ve never had to do.  She’s a “seasoned” army wife, having dealt with, survived and even thrived through multiple deployments, but yesterday was something new for her.

This deployment, this time it is her son who is the one who is bravely serving his country.  And it’s different.

Don’t get me wrong, sending our spouses off is hard enough, but as mom’s our children are part of us. For their entire lives we’ve been responsible for their safety and been there to make sure that we catch them if they fall.  And when she shared the poem “I Give You My Son” (see below), instantly tears welled in my eyes and my heart broke for her. You see I didn’t know what to say, I didn’t know how to comfort her, and that was so hard. (And for those of you who are just getting to know me, when things get emotional and I’m not sure what to “do”…… I blog 😉 )

I can only imagine how difficult her day and her week has been. I can only imagine how hard these months will be. I can only imagine how much harder it is this time.  You see, I can only imagine, because I haven’t been in her shoes.  But I do know that this time ….it’s different for her.  How do I know, because I’m a mom too. And while I may not “get” all that she’s going through, I know that it’s harder and I know at times over the next year she may need to lean on us when things get a bit overwhelming.

And I just want to say to her what I couldn’t earlier…… “Girl, we got your back as we always will, and you have shared your son in the most honorable way.  We will keep him close to our hearts and in our prayers as he serves and will rejoice with you when you welcome him home safely in your arms!”    


 I Give To You, My Son

I held him as an infant; I hugged him as a boy
and through the years he has become my greatest pride and joy.

I love him more than I can say, his life more precious than my own,
but gone are the whims and notions of the little boy that I had known.

For the years have passed so quickly since the time it all began
and now he stands before me with the conviction of a man.

He wants to serve his country, he states aloud with pride
as I try to sort out the emotions that I’m feeling deep inside…

a union of the uncertain fear, which I cannot control
and the allegiance which lies deep within my patriotic soul.

I trust that my years of guidance will serve as a strong foundation
as he performs the duties requested from his beloved nation.

God please guide him as he travels to the places our soldiers have bled
and walk with him through pathways where those heroes’ feet have tread.

Oh Sweet Land of Liberty, humbly I give to you, my son
praying you’ll return him safely home when his work for you is done.

—Author unknown—

~Judy Davis, the Direction Diva is a motivational speaker, author and entrepreneur as well as a military life and teen suicide prevention expert. Co-founder of DASIUM, Judy’s books Right Side Up  and Warning Signs: Is Your Teen at Riskare go to resources for families and her websites are filled with tips, inspiration and resources for those looking for direction. Connect with Judy at

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