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Is Being Polite REALLY that Hard?

Is it really THAT hard?

I used to just shake my head when someone didn’t hold a door or say pardon me. I also used to see manners on display far more than I saw the rudeness. But more and more I’m finding that people are in their own little bubbles and they aren’t aware that their behavior and attitude affects the people around them.

So I ask again, is it REALLY that hard?

Is it really THAT hard to say excuse me, share a smile or engage in some small talk?  Is it REALLY that hard to teach your children manners, and for goodness sake is it REALLY that hard to put away your electronic device for ONE minute to chat with the elderly woman in line who obviously is very lonely?

It doesn’t have to be anything major people; It may be a smile, or holding open a door for someone who’s hands are full.  Perhaps you could smile at the cashier and actually stop talking on your phone long enough to pay. Maybe its as simple as wishing a good day to the little old man who is always sitting in your favorite cafe.  No it’s REALLY isn’t that hard.

No matter what it is, it’s important to remember that your presence (or lack thereof) changes someone elses world. Good or Bad. And we’ve all been on the other end of a rude customer, a hurried clerk or an obnoxious passerby.

Sure it’s easy to get caught up in our own lives, heck we are plates are full and most of the time we are multi-tasking on steroids, but let’s not forget that it is the little things that make the world a better place. The everyday gestures that can seem insignificant, actually have the ability to change the course of someones life in an instant. So if you have the opportunity, step out of your bubble, disconnect from your devices and find a way to make someone else’s day just a little easier.

It really isn’t that hard – Trust me!


~Judy Davis, the Direction Diva is a motivational speaker, author and lifestyle blogger as well as a military life and teen suicide prevention expert. Co-founder of DASIUM, Judy’s books Right Side Up  and Warning Signs: Is Your Teen at Riskare go to resources for families and her websites are filled with tips, inspiration and resources for those looking for direction. Connect with Judy at

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