• Lessons From Yoda on Military Life: Fear Is The Path To The Dark Side

  • The other night a group of friends spent the evening debating the merits of various Yoda quotes and how to apply the lessons from Yoda on military life. Now I have never been a Starwars fan…but listening to the conversation has given me a whole new appreciation for this short, big earred Jedi Master and the lessons he teaches. It started out with my husband telling a friend (who was talking about how difficult a project was) “Do or do not There is no try“. The discussion that took place was fascinating. It dove into the meaning behind the word try and how that phrase can actually stop us and prevent us from doing.  So I started looking for more Yoda-isms and lessons from Yoda and found what has become my favorite quote of all time…

    “Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering.”

    It got me to thinking about how many times has fear led me to the dark side. Fear has caused me to do things that I never intended to do, and react to life defensively. This quote bests describes the cycle that must be broken if we want to stay away from the darker side of life. We must break the cycle of fear.

    Fear is all about the worry. The worry about what “could” happen.  Not what is happening right now, but rather what ONE potential outcome could be. What if we didn’t fear that ONE result, but focused on a better one? Our fear and worry would lesson, because we would find hope. And in hope, fear can’t exist!

    Fear, Anger and Hate never lead us to our dreams. In fact they strip us of our power and prevent us from taking action. So the next time I find myself feeling any of these emotions I’m going to think of Yoda and step away from the dark side, and I hope you will too!

    ~Judy Davis, the Direction Diva is a motivational speaker, author and entrepreneur as well as a military life and teen suicide prevention expert. Co-founder of DASIUM, Judy’s books Right Side Up  and Warning Signs: Is Your Teen at Riskare go to resources for families and her websites are filled with tips, inspiration and resources for those looking for direction. Connect with Judy at TheDirectionDiva.com

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