I, military spouse, Judy Davis, The Direction Diva am a worrier. There I said it. I am a worrier and have to work hard to ensure that it doesn’t consume my thoughts. Ever since becoming a military spouse worry has become part of my life. It quietly works its way into the cracks of my mind and quietly lies in wait, hoping for a moment of weakness.
And I’m not alone. Ever since the launch of my first book Right Side Up, I have received emails, tweets & questions asking how I handle worry and balance it with my military lifestyle. Worry seems to be something that we all struggle with at different times to varying degrees.
Here are3 strategies that work for me, try them and let me know how they work for you:
Redirect Your Thoughts
Ask yourself “What am I thinking about right now”. Do your thoughts make you feel good? Are you able to do anything to change the situation. Can you know for certain that what you are worrying about is truth?
If your answer is no then a simple redirection of your thoughts may help. For example, if you are worried about the safety of your service member redirect your thoughts to something like “I look forward to hearing from them soon” or think about a happy memory.
Live in the Moment
I know when my mind is filled with worry I think I need answers right now. Heck I even convince myself that if I don’t get them immediately something terrible will happen. Rather than focus on the urgency, try to live in the moment by shifting your focus to stop the negativity.
Shore up Your Foundation
It sometimes helps me to think of worry like termites. Invisible and silent especially if we don’t eliminate the attack early on. Something you can do is to stop worry from eating away at your foundation. The best “pest control” lies within you. Spend your energy thinking about the good things in your life and leave worry to move on to the abandoned house down the block.
I’d love to hear how you deal with worry in the comments below!
~Judy Davis, the Direction Diva is a motivational speaker, author and lifestyle blogger as well as a military life and teen suicide prevention expert. Co-founder of DASIUM, Judy’s books Right Side Up and Warning Signs: Is Your Teen at Riskare go to resources for families and her websites are filled with tips, inspiration and resources for those looking for direction. Connect with Judy at TheDirectionDiva.com
“Everyone deserves to realize their fullest potential toward health and well-being,
and good mental health care is essential to this”.
Dr. Arpan Waghray of Providence St. Joseph Health is also spot on in this video discussing the importance of integrated care toward long-term overall health. The future of healthcare must challenge the way we look at patients and begin integrating [...]
As I browse my social media feeds I notice so many people are fed up and unsure of the direction of their lives. It reminded me of a post I wrote a couple of years ago when my son was stressed about what he would do with his life. Fast forward nothing he even considered was to be his path; life took him in a totally different direction. And it's more than ok not only for him, but for any of us [...]
You may have noticed I've been a little quiet lately. Between the passing of my mother-in-law, supporting my husband, handling military life and dealing with all the feelings of my own, I haven't had the focus to do much else than the bare necessities. And I have been feeling guilty for taking a much-needed time out from anything that drains me physically or emotionally and just staying in my[...]
Sometimes as we traverse military life it can feel as though we live separately from the outside world. We have our own lingo, we take pride in things others take for granted and our day to day challenges are very different from our civilian counterparts. Because of this we need to build stronger coping skills and hone our self care strategies so that we are prepared - especially for the stuff[...]
Have you ever noticed that sometimes in military life it seems as though every time you turn around someone or something just keeps getting in the way of your dreams? It may feel like for every idea you have or action you take there is someone out there telling you it can't be done or how it won't work. They may even share a suggestion as to how to do it "the right way".
After church [...]
As we kick off Mental Health Awareness Month I want to begin with some insight that my son had over the weekend into how social media really steals the joy from our lives. He shares this piece of writing with me and I was struck by how it opened my eyes to the connection between social media and our military mental health. His excerpt highlights the reality of living with the challenges of [...]
Military spouse, Judy Davis, is a motivational speaker, entrepreneur, published author and co-founder of DASIUM. She is an expert in military life, small business success and suicide prevention in teens/young adults.