I, military spouse, Judy Davis, The Direction Diva am a worrier. There I said it. I am a worrier and have to work hard to ensure that it doesn’t consume my thoughts. Ever since becoming a military spouse worry has become part of my life. It quietly works its way into the cracks of my mind and quietly lies in wait, hoping for a moment of weakness.
And I’m not alone. Ever since the launch of my first book Right Side Up, I have received emails, tweets & questions asking how I handle worry and balance it with my military lifestyle. Worry seems to be something that we all struggle with at different times to varying degrees.
Here are 3 strategies that work for me, try them and let me know how they work for you:
- Redirect Your Thoughts
Ask yourself “What am I thinking about right now”. Do your thoughts make you feel good? Are you able to do anything to change the situation. Can you know for certain that what you are worrying about is truth?
If your answer is no then a simple redirection of your thoughts may help. For example, if you are worried about the safety of your service member redirect your thoughts to something like “I look forward to hearing from them soon” or think about a happy memory.
- Live in the Moment
I know when my mind is filled with worry I think I need answers right now. Heck I even convince myself that if I don’t get them immediately something terrible will happen. Rather than focus on the urgency, try to live in the moment by shifting your focus to stop the negativity.
- Shore up Your Foundation
It sometimes helps me to think of worry like termites. Invisible and silent especially if we don’t eliminate the attack early on. Something you can do is to stop worry from eating away at your foundation. The best “pest control” lies within you. Spend your energy thinking about the good things in your life and leave worry to move on to the abandoned house down the block.
I’d love to hear how you deal with worry in the comments below!
~Judy Davis, the Direction Diva is a motivational speaker, author and lifestyle blogger as well as a military life and teen suicide prevention expert. Co-founder of DASIUM, Judy’s books Right Side Up and Warning Signs: Is Your Teen at Riskare go to resources for families and her websites are filled with tips, inspiration and resources for those looking for direction. Connect with Judy at TheDirectionDiva.com