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Military Life: Digging Deep To Find Your Awesome

Yesterday, after a week away on business, I had the opportunity to do some major people watching at Chicago O’hare. I was exhausted and keeping to myself as I traveled back to my military life when behind me I heard a young couple deep in conversation. I didn’t want to eavesdrop, but I couldn’t help myself, their conversation was so interesting. To sum it up – sometimes we have to dig really deep to reveal our own awesomeness.

I don’t know if it was the fact that I was in a sweatshirt and yoga pants sporting a super sexy pigtail or that I was embracing my inner introvert, but I knew awesomeness was so far off my radar that I had to hear what else they had to say. I never did get the piece I wanted – you know the how to dig deep when you feel anything but awesome part – but the exchange helped me see that our awesomeness changes as we do and it’s up to us to uncover it.

Just days earlier as we wrapped up multiple DASIUM events, I was feeling the awesome. Yesterday as I got dressed and realized my pants were tighter, awesome – not so much. The ebb and flow of awesome is so prevalent in my military life that it gets to me sometimes. One minute I am thriving, the next I feel as though I’m on a sinking ship without a lifeboat. Sometimes I see my strength and other times I’m reminded of how far I have to go. And even on days like today when I have to dig really deep to find my awesome I don’t always recognize that it’s there.

In listening to this couple, I realize that we all have things that sets us apart from others and makes us amazing.  For some its a smile or a laugh, for others it’s a fire that burns from within.  It may be the way you make people feel or how your attitude is contagious each time you walk into the room. And today awesomeness may look different from how it did yesterday.

As military spouses it’s up to us to dig deeper to uncover the new awesome that lies within. Every day we are growing and changing, learning new skills and moving forward because of our experiences, and sometimes it’s hard to see the positive effects of those experiences.  And it’s up to us to dig deep to uncover the new awesome and then share with the world.

But how do you dig it up? How do you uncover your new awesome (especially when you feel anything but)?

Bottom line in order to acknowledge the growth and embrace the “upgraded” version of who you are becoming take some time to answer these questions:

  • What am I excelling at in this moment?
  • What brings a smile to my face and makes me feel accomplished?
  • What inspires a happy dance or high-five?
  • What pushes and inspires me differently than it used to?

Knowing these things shines the light on what makes you unique (and awesome) in this moment. It’s not about arrogance or pride, it’s about seeing yourself in a different way. A way that is founded in reality. We all are constantly changing, but we are often the last to see the changes within ourselves. Which is exactly what this couple was talking about.

How do you dig deep to find your awesomeness?


~Judy Davis, the Direction Diva is a motivational speaker, author and lifestyle blogger as well as a military life and teen suicide prevention expert. Co-founder of DASIUM, Judy’s books Right Side Up  and Warning Signs: Is Your Teen at Riskare go to resources for families and those looking for direction. Connect with Judy at

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