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Your Military Lifestyle Comparison Pisses Me Off

To those who feel that the military life is no different from the corporate world – YOUR Military Lifestyle Comparison PISSES ME OFF and honestly I have something to say…

Over the last few days with the announcement of the “war ending” in Afghanistan and the 1% pay raise our service members will receive I’ve had many conversations with both military and civilian peeps alike… many of which have made this Direction Diva’s blood boil.

Honestly many military families feel that a 1% raise is like a slap in the face. But when you tell us that we should be happy because many other American citizens got nothing, it pisses me off. To compare corporate America to what our military community does is ignorant and pretty self-serving if you ask me. For the past year we as a community have watched as our service members have been thrown under the bus by our leaders in Washington. We have seen services slashed, support pulled and in case you were wondering we have been doing more with A LOT less.

If you are one of the people who feels the military should just suck it up I would challenge you to take a hard look at why you don’t value our military and all that they do for YOU. Ask yourself the following before making such a comparison…

Does the government dictate your life?  Are you able to vacation without detailing to your boss where you will be, for how long and why you are going? If your company asks you to move do you have some control over how it will happen, where you will go and how much of your stuff you can take? What about your kids, do your kids have to start new schools, find new friends and be uprooted on average every 2 years? Probably not. Do your children regularly celebrate holidays and birthdays without their parent there.

What about you? Were you required to sign over your life only to realize rules in the original contract can change without warning and you can do nothing about it? Are you required to leave your home, family and children, to risk your life on a daily basis? I warned you this is a rant, but as Judy Davis, military family advocate, author and the Direction Diva I take creative license to do that every now and then, so forgive me if this offends.

I hear you with the argument saying that it’s important for everyone to step up so we can get this country back on track. But every service member has stepped up… in fact it is only 1% of the entire country that steps up to defend the freedoms YOU enjoy, so be careful before you ask that 1% for anything more. Be careful how you treat our men and women who VOLUNTEER to serve because they don’t have to do what they do. If you think our compensation is fair, our support is adequate or that we have the same freedoms offered to our corporate counterparts I urge YOU to sign up and do what they do. Better yet ask yourself if you would want your child to live this life.

Before you say anything along the lines of we knew what we were getting into I concede that yes we chose this life but that’s not relevant to this argument just as a happy marriage isn’t a given just because you chose your spouse and knew what you were getting into before you said I do. I can tell you that military life is NOT the same as corporate in any way shape or form. And to say that it is, well that is messed up.

Here is the thing, it’s easy to sit there and assume you understand what military life is like, but you don’t know the half of it. Has your spouse come back from a business trip with nightmares or a TBI. Have your children spent days worrying how they will manage if their mission goes terribly wrong? Have you said goodbye knowing you may never have the opportunity to do it again? Have you watched your child be born via Skype or missed saying goodbye to a parent because you were deployed? What about receiving a pink slip while in a war zone fighting for your life? I didn’t think so.

So to those who say we are lucky to get 1% more this year I ask does 1% really feel appropriate for all the military community is asked to do day in and day out for your freedom? Is 1% really going to help the military family who needs food stamps to feed their kids? No military life is NOTHING like corporate life so please stop pretending it is.

What are your thoughts?
I’d love to hear them in the comments below…


~Judy Davis, the Direction Diva is a motivational speaker, author and lifestyle blogger as well as a military life and teen suicide prevention expert. Co-founder of DASIUM, Judy’s books Right Side Up  and Warning Signs: Is Your Teen at Riskare go to resources for families and her websites are filled with tips, inspiration and resources for those looking for direction. Connect with Judy at

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