Raising kids is the toughest job you will ever love. Whether you are a military family or not you as a parent will always wonder if you are doing a good job. From the moment you find out that you have a baby on board everything changes. What you eat and drink, even how you think about your future and your entire life. Then when they are born, you are responsible for another human beings needs. You are responsible for guiding them and showing them everything from how to walk to how to talk. Your children are your biggest worry and your greatest joy. And everything in between.
Over the last week I’ve watched as my daughter, both of my sister in laws and fellow another military family question whether they are doing it right. From tantrums and school meetings to ER visits and feeling the need to hit the reset button there was a common thread. A feeling that they were doing it wrong, that somewhere they screwed up and should have done things differently.
Military Family: 10 Things you need to know about being a parent:
You will screw up
And that’s ok
You will have regrets
Because there are so many factors that you can’t possibly know
You do the best you can in every moment
Never forget that
You know how to help your child better than anyone else
Don’t let anyone convince you otherwise
You don’t have to be “on” and perfect every moment of the day
Stop beating yourself up
You are leading by example
Make it a good one
You will react and say things you wish you could take back
Apologize and do better next time. We all have faults, strengths and insecurities – your child gets that more than you know
You will look at your child and feel pride, anger, happiness, disgust, sadness and bewilderment.
All at the same time
You will wish they were old enough to move out and long for them to come home once they go.
Because a part of you is always with them.
10. Being a grandma is SO much easier than being mom.
You get the fun, you get to support and nurture, but you also get to sleep and leave the worry behind.
~Judy Davis, the Direction Diva is a motivational speaker, author and lifestyle blogger as well as a military life and teen suicide prevention expert. Co-founder of DASIUM, Judy’s books Right Side Up and Warning Signs: Is Your Teen at Risk are go to resources for families and her websites are filled with tips, inspiration and resources for those looking for direction. Connect with Judy at TheDirectionDiva.com
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Military spouse, Judy Davis, is a motivational speaker, entrepreneur, published author and co-founder of DASIUM. She is an expert in military life, small business success and suicide prevention in teens/young adults.