A while back I had the privilege of attending a recognition dinner where a wonderful speaker talked about how to deal with changes that come up in our lives. Immediately I knew that I could apply her brilliance to my military life in so many ways. For me when things are changing my emotions get the best of me and I struggle to get things done. I wander from “project” to “project” never quite finishing anything to completion. I can’t think, can’t be productive and certainly can’t focus on much of anything. And then I get more stressed because of my lack of activity.
As I listened there were tons of great insights, but two things stood out – the importance of staying logical rather than emotional and having a plan (especially when dealing with business). It was a lightbulb moment when I put 2 and 2 together and realized
IF YOU HAVE A MILITARY LIFE PLAN IN PLACE, WHEN YOU FEEL GOOD YOU WILL BE ABLE TO GET INTO PRODUCTIVE ACTION IMMEDIATELY
When we feel good, we get things done. But too often instead of taking action when we feel good we take up our “action time” with activities that feel like they are productive, but really don’t get us anywhere. Things like making a list, calling a friend, getting organized so we can work…you know the stuff we do to make us feel productive but really isn’t. So how do you stay in a place of logic and not emotion when dealing with all the changes in military life? By creating a plan, and here is a simple way to do it!
- Ask yourself “What is it that is changing”? Write it down. For example I will be moving in 2 months (totallyemotional and twhirly would describe my state of mind!) So for me the “Plan” will be about my move.
- Change: MOVING
- I went to a military resource and printed out a “Military To Do List” that outlined every task that needed to be done before, during and after our PCS
- My list for today: Sort all Business Stuff, Get rid of clothing that doesn’t fit, Contact housing office, Make transportation appt, Research homes in Colorado
- Priority #1: Sort business Stuff (it is what is causing me the most stress)
- Priority #2: Contact Housing office
- Priority #3: Research Real Estate offices
What was great about this entire process was that once I had the overall plan, I relaxed, became less emotional and could take action. We often get all messed up because we don’t know what to do, and therefore our emotions take over; but once we have a tangible plan, we can get back to the logic, let go of the emotion and move forward.
~Judy Davis, the Direction Diva is a motivational speaker, author and lifestyle blogger as well as a military life and teen suicide prevention expert. Co-founder of DASIUM, Judy’s books Right Side Up and Warning Signs: Is Your Teen at Risk are go to resources for families and her websites are filled with tips, inspiration and resources for those looking for direction. Connect with Judy at TheDirectionDiva.com