Because talking is my thing, you can imagine how excited I was when my fellow USAA influencer Ron Fugle invited me to be on an episode of Fire and Adjust. Ron has an amazing mission of helping his listeners save time, money, aggravation and possibly even your hair when starting their journey. And he’s providing this all to help and support the military community in a very tangible way.
I’ve heard many of his interviews and there is always so much wisdom and advice to gleen from the guests and himself. So I wanted to make sure you knew about what he is doing and had an opportunity to listen in to our show!
Interview with Judy Davis, The Direction Diva on Fire and Adjust:
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Being a lifestyle blogger means that I have to juggle lots of tasks. From planning and writing to marketing and analytics there is always something to be working on. Lately though, I’ve been burning the candle at both ends which has forced me to find tools that help me work smarter not harder. As you know, transitioning to life as a technology goddess has been a huge help thanks to my Verizon Buzz friends (read more about how I use tech, Twitter chats, Hotspots and Mastering the Cloud to be more productive). And I’m always learning more. In fact in the last couple of months I’ve taken to utilizing 3 simple tools to help improve my overall blog quality and wanted to share them with you!
3 Simple Tools to Instantly Improve Your Blog Quality [click to continue reading …]
In case you missed the ground moving or the fireworks lighting up the sky…on Saturday I turned 50. Yes I Judy Davis, The Direction Diva am 50 years old, half a century the big 5-OHHH! Some people would be sad, but I did that at 35…no 50 this birthday I am excited about.
Not because of my wrinkles or laugh lines, not because of my gravity-challenged body parts and DEFINATELY not because I creek and pop a little more than I used to. Being 50 is awesome because:
1. I have skills that keep me from doing stupid stuff all over again.
2. I can say I’m sorry and mean it.
3. I am able to admit to my short-comings with complete unapologetic acceptance.
4. I know how to change what I can and let go of the rest.
5. I don’t have to know everything.
6. I am not afraid to ask for help.
7. I have loved, lost , battled back and rose up only to realize that I really can handle whatever life throws at me.
8. I’ve come to realize that one can be selfish and selfless all at the same time.
9. I really am stronger that I ever knew I could be.
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PTSD & Identity: 4 Ways to Begin Healing
by guest blogger Michele Rosenthal
A military spouse once said to me, “PTSD is like a stranger that sneaks into the house and hides in the shadows. For a while you can feel there’s a new presence but because you can’t see it you think maybe you’re just imagining the change. Then something happens; a light shines in the shadows and someone you don’t recognize steps forward.”
This description brilliantly captures the assault on identity that posttraumatic stress disorder causes. Many survivors describe it as a distinct “before” and “after” self. They notice that priorities and values change; interests and activities shift; and desires and objectives alter. When you ask a survivor to explain the transformation he often has no answer. The changes are driven by subconscious needs; survivors watch as detached observers while their lives, relationships and careers experience upheaval and disintegration.
Although there isn’t any one-size-fits-all recovery process there are many ways to heal PTSD. At the center of each unique process lies one universal element: a renegotiation of the self.
The Post-Trauma Identity Crisis
PTSD activates (and then doesn’t allow the deactivation of) the sympathetic nervous system. On a neurophysiological level this alters survivors all the way down to each individual cell. From dysfunctional brain structures to habituated survival responses PTSD puts in place disruptive and addictive behaviors designed to establish a sense of safety and control. Though many survivors are aware of the negative changes they feel powerless to stop them. Here is the core of the identity crisis after trauma: You’re not who you used to be in the past; you’re not who you’d like to become in the future; and you are powerless over much of who you are in the present.
This sensation of powerlessness often leads to self-hate, plus feelings of being less than, uselessness (i.e. unable to protect oneself or loved ones), and an inability to professionally perform with reliability and skill. The light shines in the shadows and suddenly a proud soldier turns into a person he no longer feels good about.
Attempting to heal while experiencing a sensation of self-loathing, loss or confusion makes it even harder to feel safe and in control. There is, however, a way to restore a positive sense of self: A healing process with identity reconstruction as a central theme can help turn your soldier back into your partner in ways that are grounded, deliberate, genuine and authentic.
Four Ways Trauma Affects Identity [click to continue reading …]