THAT PREVENT A VALENTINE'S DAY DISASTER!Valentine’s day always puts this Direction Diva in a romantic mood. Every February, cupids arrow strikes hot, but as a couple that has defied the odds and can see a 25th wedding anniversary in our crosshairs, it’s getting harder and harder to keep the romance alive. What gives you ask? What is different now than a few short years ago when a simple smile turned my knees to mush? What has me preparing and finding ways to prevent a Valentine’s Day disaster?

Technology.

Yes indeed. The productivity boosting, life-simplifying, handy-dandy,  can’t live without demon; Technology.

Now you all know that I love me some tech. In fact since joining the Verizon #VZWBuzz team* I have changed my love/hate relationship with technology to a love/love and love some more one. However, despite it’s convenience and efficiency I have to work to prevent technology from taking over and impacting my personal life.

Here are 7 Technology Tips that Prevent a Valentine’s Day Disaster and re-igniting your relationship in the process! [click to continue reading …]

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PARENTING your teenParenting your teenager. Looking back there are so many things I wish I had done differently as a parent. Don’t get me wrong I am a great mom, but there are times when I wish I had known better.

From the moment we hold them in our arms we are responsible for our child’s physical and emotional well-being. For me, Judy Davis, expert on best practices for parenting your teenager, this was no small realization. I worried, and wondered and as they grow, I was torn between my desire for them to stay young and my wish that they would grow up already. After years of teaching, nurturing and disciplining, our babies hit the teen years and start to spread their wings.

When our kids are little it’s simple. If they are hungry we feed them, sick we nurture them back to health. If they are hurt we make it better. But things change when they hit the teen years. A slammed door or angry retort may have nothing to do with the situation at hand. 

When my children were teenagers I found myself wondering if they were ok. I questioned if our military life was taking its toll. I wondered if the changes I saw were normal or if they were indicative of something more. And I know I wasn’t alone. No one ever gave me a how to parent a teen rule book, I played it by ear.

Here are 3 things I wish I had known: [click to continue reading …]

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How YourLife is full of challenges especially when we are hit with something unexpected. But this Direction Diva is here to tell you that no matter what your challenges are, they will make you a stronger person if you let them. For most of us, when life takes a twist and our daily lives are more difficult than normal, we want to move through the situation quickly. We just want to get it over with and move on – and the sooner the better, right?

Our thoughts begin to focus on how much better life would be if our current situation had never happened in the first place. Sometimes, I wonder if that’s really true.

Would we really be better off if
we never had to deal with life’s challenges?

I know for myself, without exception there has not been one difficult moment or experience that hasn’t helped me grow as a person in the long run.  It may have taken me years to figure out the why, in fact I’m still asking WHY US when it comes to our life in crisis, but I also know that…

I am who I am
BECAUSE of everything that has happened,
not in spite of it.

I watch people spend their energy wishing for a better life, praying that things could be different. But instead of doing something about it, accepting what is or looking for the silver lining, they embrace a victim mentality and continue to do the same things wishing things were different.

They miss the good stuff – the magic that is there if you look hard enough because they spend all their time complaining or silently feeling sorry for themselves.  Now compare that to the people who embrace their “stuff”, the individuals who don’t spend their life wishing. [click to continue reading …]

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Strong Military SpouseI am a military spouse, and I am strong. So why don’t I feel strong at all. A strong military spouse is the expectation that permeates throughout our community. Strength, toughness, and resilience are  traits  that a “proper” milspouse should exhibit right? But sometimes life is difficult; the daily demands become so overwhelming that I don’t fee strong at all, in fact those are the days when all I want to do is cry.

I know I’m not alone on those days when I feel like I’m falling short here at Direction Diva central, especially when blog posts like this and this really resonate with my battle buddies.

I do my best to hold it all together. I try to be strong and focus on the positive as I go through the motions of this ever-changing inconsistent life…inserting deep breath here… but even though I do all those things, this lifestyle turns me upside down and can turn this pillar of strength into a big puddle of goo.

And that’s when the showers begin.

I’ll admit it, these last few days have been full of goo…with the launching of our new parenting resource Warning Signs , the long hours my husband is working, hormones messing with every damn thing and the stress of too many 13 hour days, the waterworks have been flowing.  But today as I was taking the garbage outside, I noticed something incredible.  I noticed the clouds….

As I watched them it dawned on me that clouds are much like each of us… [click to continue reading …]

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