A few days ago I was chatting with a group of military spouses, a few of whom were in their mid twenties. Our conversation was awesome and we laughed a lot about the craziness of our lives, husbands and the fact that military life is what brought us all together and we shared some incredible bits of advice. I mean where else can you have so many people of different ages, backgrounds, education and careers with so much in common?

At one point one of the girls asked me, “what do you wish you would have known when you were my age”? At the time I talked about being a mom and not sweating the small stuff, but the conversation got me thinking… At 25 I had just met the man who would become my husband, had a rewarding career and was on my own for the first time. Looking back there are lots of things I wish I knew that would have made things much easier, but here are the some bits of advice I can share!

20 Amazing Bits of Advice I Wish I knew at 25…

  1.  You can make a living doing a lot of things, choose something that gets you excited to get out of bed.
  2. Money doesn’t solve everything, BUT not having enough for the basics causes an incredible amount of stress.
  3. You will screw up and it won’t be the end of the world. [click to continue reading …]


TheDirectionDiva.com (3)PCS season brings with it an unexpected PCS challenge that many of us don’t think about as we prepare our families and back up our goods and we can never have enough quick pcs tips to make things easier can we?

When moving cross-country often the last thing on our mind is how we will physically adjust to the new stomping grounds. So in true Direction Diva form, I’m not going to talk about PCS tips in the sense of how to work with the movers or the best way to go about finding out where to get good produce. What I’m talking about today is something you may have overlooked specifically making the acclimation to the physical environment of your new duty station. It’s an unexpected PCS challenge that can throw a wrench into a seamless PCS move.

For me most recently I had difficulty making the adjustment to living in the humid, allergen rich, buggy and hot conditions of southern Missouri. For other battle buddies it’s been learning to deal with the higher altitudes of Colorado or the rainy days of Washington State. No matter where you are moving, here are 3 quick tips that can save you a lot of headaches when you begin your journey and get settled at your new duty station.

Quick Tips

Tip #1: Know what you are getting into.

With all we have to think about it’s easy to be more interested in the schools, housing and resources available at our new duty station. But if you find yourself with altitude sickness, your family pet is covered in ticks or your allergies kick into high gear trust me you won’t care a lick about any of that. Take some time to learn a little about the climate of where you are going AND what some of the challenges that other military families are dealing with.

Ask questions on Facebook pages and see what people are talking about. Trust me you don’t want to get to Fort Leonard Wood in July at dusk without a huge supply of bug spray on hand, nor do you want to be dehydrated when you get to Colorado Springs. Both situations can make for a VERY rough transition. [click to continue reading …]


After spending the last week and a half on Whirlwind Roadtrip ’15 I have so many thoughts going through my mind. Everything from looking at my business with a critical eye and missing crazy family dynamics to the type of vacation I want to take next. It’s funny how spending time with my 3-year-old grand-daughter puts things into perspective and challenges me to take a closer look at how I live my day-to-day life.

It seems after each visit to spend time with her my eyes open just a little more. After my last visit I wrote The Struggle Is Real where I tackled how as a military spouse the idea of going home is an oxymoron and this time it’s all about what she taught me over the course of our recent 8 day road trip.

It’s funny as adults we assume that we know more than our little ones, and sure they look to us for guidance on how to get along in this big world, but I know I’ve learned more from this angel about finding happiness than I could ever teach her. She just has this natural instinct when it comes to being happy that makes you take pause because you know that somewhere along the line you lost that. It’s as if the moment we get older we forget what makes us being happy naturally and then spend all of our spare time searching for the “thing” that will bring our happiness back. For me I spend a lot of time trying to de-stress, relax and lower my anxiety levels all in a personal quest to find that easy happiness I somehow lost when I became a military spouse. And my answer just may be in the 5 Simple Life Lessons I learned from my grand-daughter about happiness and here they are… [click to continue reading …]


TheDirectionDiva.com (1)As an entrepreneur and author I am very busy, add to that the general ebb and flow of the military lifestyle and it is a recipe for the perfect storm. And that perfect storm came to a head last week.

I was at the doctor for a regular med refill appointment and the next thing I know I was in a wheelchair on my way to the ER. After hours of tests with a few more scheduled as an outpatient, my vitals signs are stabilized with some blood pressure meds and a strong warning from my doctor to slow down and rest.

But honestly I’m not sure if I even know how to do that anymore. I’ve been an entrepreneur my entire life, but not until I became a military spouse did I find it difficult to relax and find balance. I’ve become this person who pushes and no longer knows how to relax and just be. It’s as if I’m in hyper-drive all of the time trying to stay ahead of my life.

And the result isn’t pretty and frankly if I don’t get a handle on my stress level a future trip to the ER may have drastically different results.  So in an effort to find some balance I dug deep into my tool box and reached out to fellow entrepreneurs for their best tips, and wanted to share what I came up with. Here are some of the best ways to combat stress.

Best Tips to Combat Stress

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