• Parenting: The Transition to Adulthood

  • This week has been somewhat like a trip to Disneyland only without the crazy prices for a bottle of water ūüôā .

    You know how it goes, the weeks of anticipation as you prepare. ¬†The excitement as you see Mickey’s ears for the first time. The full days that leave you exhausted but happy deep inside. The stress. And that comfort you feel when you know that your time and effort was all worthwhile. Yes indeed just like Disney.

    And like ¬†Disney, I feel as if I’m on a roller coaster.

    I came to help my daughter and son-in-law¬†move into their first home. The home my granddaughter will come to a few days after she is born, the place she will learn to crawl and say “grandma”. ¬† I watch as my daughter and son-in-law make the transition into parenthood. ¬†And I giggle…

    My son also lives in “Red Raider” territory and is just finishing his freshman year at Texas Tech. ¬†We had a chance to “hangout” in his dorm room and go for coffee at one of the local “hangouts”. ¬†We had one of those quality conversations that left us both feeling amazing, and we were able to “take in” ¬†our surroundings and even do a little “student watchin”. And I giggle…

    Seeing both of my kids in their “element”, living their lives and growing into incredible young adults not only humbles me, but it made me proud, nervous and even¬†a bit nostalgic. It was the first time I actually saw them as adults – I mean real adults, not just my kids growing up. ¬†I saw them as people that are making the world a better place. People that I’m proud to know, and people I can even call friends. It was right then as I took it all in, that I knew ¬†“we done good”.

    All the hard work, all the “lessons”, all the late nights rocking, soothing and stressing, all the worry over whether or not I screwed them up by being less than exemplary, all of it.

    Parenting is hard. ¬†And truth be told I will never stop being “mom” or supporting my “kids” ¬†as they continue to transition toward new phases in their lives. ¬†But this week, I learned that ¬†I no longer needed to “take care of” my kids. ¬†I realized that ¬†from this point forward, that instead of being responsible for them, that I could now “enjoy the ride” with them.

    Sure there will be hills and valleys, and maybe even mountains to climb, but I can scream with them. laugh with them, cry with them, pray with them, and enjoy new experiences with them.  I no longer have to fix or prevent. I can support and cheer and create memories and giggle in a whole new way.

     

    ~Judy Davis, the Direction Diva is a motivational speaker, author and entrepreneur as well as a military life and teen suicide prevention expert. Co-founder of DASIUM, Judy’s books Right Side Up  and Warning Signs: Is Your Teen at Riskare go to resources for families and her websites are filled with tips, inspiration and resources for those looking for direction. Connect with Judy at TheDirectionDiva.com

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