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Reality Check: Patience and Excitement Can’t Co-exist

PatienceToday’s Direction Moment:  Patience and Excitement Can’t Exist in the Same Space and that’s ok

Ok I know I’m now a year older and a year wiser.  But even after celebrating my birthday yesterday you would think that by now I would have learned patience.  And normally, even with things like children, my mother 😉 , stressed out military spouses, and a new puppy I really do have a long fuse.

HOWEVER, what I know for sure is that for me, patience and excitement can’t co-exist. When there is something good, something juicy my patience is well non-existent!  I’m worse than a little one waiting for Santa or the Easter bunny.  I am zingy with energy and can barely sit still.  I still remember the time Geoff was coming home from Iraq, and each hour seemed like FOREVER and the time we were going on a cruise Caribbean and I could barely focus enough let alone think about what to pack. And let’s not talk about the first time we took the kids to Disney for 7 days – I don’t think I slept the entire week before we went thinking about how excited they would be once they laid eyes on Mickey. Patience is not a virtue when I get excited at all… And today I think I’m about to burst.

So what’s causing all the chaos today you ask?

Soon I will find out if I’m going to be grandma to a baby girl or a baby boy, and I actually have to wait 5 days until I have the peace of mind knowing that the baby is developing properly and that my daughter is doing well. But seriously 5 DAYS!  How can I wait 5 days!  The anticipation is driving me nuts!  I mean the appointment COULD be today, but NO….I have to “patiently” wait til Monday…

Are there times or situations in your life where patience is extra tough?

For me saying excitement is my nemesis is an understatement. So in an effort to pass some time, I decided to look up what “PATIENCE” really means…By definition it is “the capacity to accept or tolerate delay, trouble, or suffering without getting angry or upset”. Ok I’m not upset and I’m not angry so I’m patient right!?!  Not so much…

And I think the issue is the acceptance piece of it. Like many I tend to argue with reality and want things my way, but when that happens I’ve learned to focus and find ways to manage all the feelings and emotions that make me want to change the things I can’t accept.

So I started thinking about all the “stuff” I used to do with my kids when they were “zingy” and excited about something that was days away…and I can’t remember what I did.  I can’t for the life of me remember how I helped them with “patience” at all….and now I’m even wondering if that was one of my parenting “faux pas”.

Maybe this “patience” thing is just not something I d0 well….and maybe that’s ok in situations like this. Excitement and patience may not be able to exist at the same time in the same circumstances. I mean if I haven’t figured it out by now I’m not sure I will.

 

~Judy Davis, the Direction Diva is a motivational speaker, author and lifestyle blogger as well as a military life and teen suicide prevention expert. Co-founder of LivingThruCrisis.com, Judy’s books Right Side Up  and Warning Signs: Is Your Teen at Risk are go to resources for families and her websites are filled with tips, inspiration and resources for those looking for direction. Connect with Judy at TheDirectionDiva.com

2 Comments

  • Karen Dawkins

    HAHA!!! I’m 46 as of last Sunday and confident I, too, look no older than 30 :)… Of course, if that were true, there’d be awkward math moments when I meet new people while out and about with my son. If you know what I mean!!!

    We are waiting for said son to decide which college to attend. I have cast my vote, but this is not a majority wins kinda thing. So, I don’t sleep… wondering how life would be for him here. Or there. Reminds me of Green Eggs and Ham, would you like him here or there? Hmmmm….

    See what I mean? I don’t sleep! I get it. I’m with you. And if I’m this bad about college, then how will I be when he’s married and waiting for the first ultrasound of his first baby. Oh geesh!

    • Judy Davis - The Direction Diva

      Karen,

      Here’s to all us “30 somethings”….Lol!

      I think that those first few months when our kids are babies and we are up with feedings etc…hold NOTHING compared to the loss of sleep that occurs when they get older and the “big” decisions come up! Keep me posted on your son’s “here or there”, in the mean time I’ll send some sleeping vibes your way!!! Thanks for your comment and have a great week!

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