Calm The Chaos
We Military Spouses sure do life a chaotic life. We handle things like:
- Parenting (often feeling like a single parent when our military counterpart of off doing their “job”.
- Organizing things from multiple schedules, kids activities, moving, equipment and everything in between.
- Dealing with the ever changing military lifestyle
- Trying to maximize each moment knowing that we may have to celebrate the next “event” in the absence of our military “better” half.
As a military spouse you are busy, you juggle the kids, your home, your relationships and countless other things, and if you are anything like me, you know that there are days that you want to pull your hair out. The kids aren’t listening, you are running late, your teenager broke curfew and dinner, wait a minute, who even has time to think about dinner? And to top it off you your “other half” is off on another assignment, maybe they are even deployed or TDY.
Sometimes you just want to scream, but with the right information, a little bit of balance and a whole lot of fun you will learn to Calm The Chaos and enjoy one of the most rewarding experiences that you will ever have.
There are a zillion books, websites, fan pages and blogs filled with informational logistics on the best way to parent, manage your time, juggle the military life, maximize each and every moment, and frankly sometimes it makes my head spin. The hardest part for me wasn’t about finding the information, it was actually knowing how to use it once I had it in my hands.
Thankfully, services like Pinterest help me to easily keep track of some great tips and info that I find online, but the best place to get useful information that you can use to be a better military spouse comes from other milspouses. Find a group of positive, engaged spouses and help each other, and if you can’t find that in your community check out these online groups for support!
- USAA’s Military Spouse Community - a free online community to connect
- Macho Spouse: A Community for male Military spouses
- Military.com - free spouse channel and community
- Military Spouse Blogging Community
- Erin Parenting – Erin has many great resources for “Stress Free Parenting” and my favorite is her parenting club be sure to check it out!
- Child Psych Mom Blog – A great blog written by a child psychologist with 4 children.
- The Confident Mom Blog – An upbeat blog and website with great resources and helpful tips
What can you do to find a healthy balance?
The biggest challenge that any spouse faces is finding a healthy balance that meets the needs of our entire family including ourselves. It’s not just about getting everyone where they need to be, or taking care of their physical and emotional well-being, it’s about doing so with the least amount of stress and alot of fun!
I’ve written a few blogposts that address this subject and will help you
What can you do to increase the FUN factor and maximize the moments of your life?
As a military spouse, you know that this lifestyle isn’t always fun, sometimes you are tired, sick, stressed out and fun is the last thing on your mind. Being in the military is challenging, everyone has their own needs, and there is a constant feeling of “never enough time”. And while it may be true, we tend to believe that we can do it all.
Reality…..You can’t do it all and that’s OK. (Here’s the proof I share on my blog post I’m Not A Superhero…Not Today Anyway)
In fact, acknowledging the fact that you can’t do it all, is better than ok, it’s how it should be. Let’s just take the example of our kids. Children walk slower, are more curious and take time eating, Why? Not because they want you to be late, not because they are lazy, but because they are looking for ways to increase the fun in their lives. Children naturally know how to let go of things and focus on the stuff that makes them happy, and we should to. Learning to have fun makes motherhood so much better, and as my grandma used say ”stop and smell the roses”, trust me when you do, you will be better for it.
Thankfully we are surrounded by resources that offer support and help us increase the fun factor. Here are some of the best: