• Strive for Happy – a Life Tip from Judy Davis, The Direction Diva

  • Life Tip:  Strive for THAT kind of happy!

    There’s much to be said about getting away for the weekend to recharge your spirit and rest your mind.  And really there is no better place than in the Colorado Rocky Mountains.  Every time we are headed up, I can’t help but break into the John Denver Song…..Rocky Mountain High…Colorado (be glad you can’t hear me, because I didn’t receive an ounce of ability on the singing front).

    My husband and I don’t camp “cozy”, we love the down and dirty, out in the wilderness, no showers, no running water, what you bring in with you, you take out kind of camping.  We go where we do, not only because it is incredibly beautiful, but in these remote locations out in the boonies, that’s where we escape from the “real world” and we get to do our favorite hobby, Gold Prospecting!  (Who knew right !?!)

    Now you may be thinking to yourself, Judy wilderness camping, no cell reception, digging in the dirt for days with no running water, now that’s something I gotta see (and I will admit that at times it really is a comedy of errors- maybe someday I’ll share the “battle with a cactus that had me pulling  needles out of my butt cheeks for days” story)……but it’s all worth it when you see me with my fashionable layers, big floppy hat and a huge dorky smile ….truly loving something so out of my “norm”.

    The reality is, that all the stress that life brings, melts away when you take out all the distractions and modern conveniences and do something that you normally wouldn’t do. For me that’s a place with no computers, no soldiers, no phones and no housework. It’s a place where I can hear myself think.  It’s a place where the magic happens.

    It  is truly peaceful when all you can hear is things like the Arkansas River running, hawks calling out to one another or a bird singing in the morning sun.  Where else would you be so relaxed that can stir in the middle of the night wondering why it’s so bright and look out to see that the moon is so full and the stars so bright that they are actually lighting up the world. Who wouldn’t stop to make a wish and just be amazed at the beauty?

    It’s in those moments that you forget that it’s only 28 degrees or that you haven’t had a shower. It’s in those moments that you quit thinking about all the “crap” in your everyday life. You don’t care about the past, or the future, you just immerse yourself in the present moment and all life’s troubles just melt away.  You don’t  worry or care what tomorrow will bring because out here it doesn’t matter.  None of that “stuff” matters. The only thing that you think about is how grateful you are to be alive and how lucky you are right where you are at.

    Sure every now and then you come across some people with similar dirt smudges on their face and hats dorkier than your own.  Each of you come from very different backgrounds, but you all have one thing in common, you are REALLY happy!  Not the “oh here comes Suzie-Q, I need to put on my smiley face” kind of happy, but the “I love my life and am grateful to be right here right now” kind of happy. You can see it in our eyes and in our mannerisms. There’s no stress out here.

    And isn’t that the kind of happy we all strive for?

    The kind of happy that can’t even be ruined by a flat tire, an almost flat spare (that you pray is going to make it all the way into town), a painful run in with a cactus for you and your puppy or the fact that you forget an entire bag of food in the fridge.  [Remember the comedy of errors I was talking about…yeppers true story 🙂 ]

    It’s funny but out here in the Rockies these “stressors”, that at home would make us crazy, turn into fond memories that we will laugh about for years…… and that’s the kind of happy that I want in my life don’t you?


    ~Judy Davis, the Direction Diva is a motivational speaker, author and entrepreneur as well as a military life and teen suicide prevention expert. Co-founder of DASIUM, Judy’s books Right Side Up  and Warning Signs: Is Your Teen at Riskare go to resources for families and her websites are filled with tips, inspiration and resources for those looking for direction. Connect with Judy at TheDirectionDiva.com


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