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Stop Living Your Military Life On Autopilot

Recently I read a quote by the Greek philosopher Epictetus which not only said one of the most powerful things I have heard in a long time but reminded me to stop living my military life on autopilot.  He shared “It’s not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters”.  So simple, but easily forgotten.

As we go through our lives we are often on autopilot, and what happens “to us” dictates how we feel and what actions we take.  But shouldn’t we have more control than that?  I mean we all have the power of free will and choice, so why do we “react” to the world rather than take the reigns and create our lives?

I don’t know about you, but I fluctuate back and forth between reacting and creating.  I tend to create when I’m energized, feel good and am thinking about all that is right in my world, and I react when I fall into the “I’m tired of ….” mode.

When I looked at the Epictetus’ quote, I realized that the fluctuation I sometimes see is caused by my reactions.  Instead of putting out the “good juju” as I call it (my kids still roll their eyes every time I go into “MOM’s energy crap” but hey….) it becomes easier to “put out and feed” the negative feelings that arise in difficult times.

And it’s easier because you can always find someone who helps feed the cycle of negativity. I know that I’ve blogged about this before, but let me say this again because it is SO important,and we all need reminding (lol experience talking there!) ….the people you surround yourself are critical!  Who you are around and how they react directly impacts how you react.  And how you react to what presents itself dictates your experience and in turn your ability to enjoy your life.

So if you want to have a life filled with love, happiness and a cycle of “good juju”, hang around with people who create their lives! Hang out with people who don’t spend time in “reaction mode”, but spend their time loving their life and focusing on all that is working.   Create forgiveness, create the silver lining and above all else take yourself off of autopilot and pay attention to what is working.  If we focus on these things, the things that really matter our lives will improve in an instant…’s all about choosing to focus on what feels right and acting on that!


~Judy Davis, the Direction Diva is a motivational speaker, author and lifestyle blogger as well as a military life and teen suicide prevention expert. Co-founder of DASIUM, Judy’s books Right Side Up  and Warning Signs: Is Your Teen at Riskare go to resources for families and her websites are filled with tips, inspiration and resources for those looking for direction. Connect with Judy at

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