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    Military Life: Deployment is a time to choke up and swing…

    Over the last few days I’ve found myself wondering why. Why the upheaval in Iraq. Why did that person share such a thing on social media. Why did she get cancer? Why Why Why…it was like a 2 year old just discovering the world around them and I couldn’t stop it. And then I heard a speaker who shared something that really hit home for me. Something that ultimately put an end to the WHY mantra going on in my head.  She said Growth moves us from “why did this happen to me” to “how can I learn through this experience” Deployment is the one side of Army life that I could do…

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    Military Life: 6 Strategies to Take Away the Sting of Being Apart

    I think the hardest part of military life is being apart. Whether it’s apart from your family, your spouse or your friends it doesn’t matter there is a sting of separation that is all to real. I can’t help it, but on the days when I’m really missing my daughter or just want to hang out with my sisters I tend to blame the military. A few weeks ago I was having one of those days and my battle buddy was busy and I found myself falling down the slippery slope of how horrible my current duty station is. And then I immediately dismissed my feelings, because my soldier isn’t…

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    Military Life: The Countdown to Deployment (Part 1)

    It’s happening again…SRP, NTC, POA’s.  All of you fellow military spouses know that the increase in the number of acronyms flying around my house means only one thing.  Deployment is just around the corner. Field time has been intense and yesterday was the first SRP (Soldier Readiness Processing).  I don’t know about you, but even though we haven’t got the official “orders”, SRP and knowing that in just a few weeks they leave for a month of deployment prep at NTC (National Training Center) makes it all real. And this time, I feel like throwing a tantrum.  Yep, laying on the ground, pounding my fists and flaying my legs and just having a fit. I want to…

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    Military Life: Overcoming The Distance

    The reality of Military Life is that home is where they put us, challenges come up and the rewards are many. Military spouses are a resilient bunch, and most of the time I can honestly say I enjoy the new adventure that come with moving and knowing that “home” could be on a base anywhere in the world. But every now and then, I long to have a life with the same neighbors, the same doctors, the same friends and the same community. I long to be there for our nieces birthdays, nephews graduations, cousins weddings, family dinners, crowded holidays and even the chaos that all of those events bring. Last week when I was in the labor…

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    Military Life: It’s Different Than Expected

    Yesterday for the first time in a long time I actually decided to sit outside and relax.  Even my neighbor was shocked that we both had an hour to just be amidst the craziness that is our military life.  You see this life as a military spouse doesn’t leave much room for “relaxing”.  It seems that there is always some event, meeting, volunteer opportunity or ceremony to go to. Not to mention all the other things we have to do just to keep the household functioning with the changing schedules, training missions and deployment cycles. The face that we both were able to chill out at the same time was monumental, our schedules…

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    Military Life: I Give To You My Son (The plight of a Military Mom)

    So often I talk with, speak to and console other military spouses as we send our husbands off to fight.  But yesterday a friend of mine from our previous unit did something that I’ve never had to do.  She’s a “seasoned” army wife, having dealt with, survived and even thrived through multiple deployments, but yesterday was something new for her. This deployment, this time it is her son who is the one who is bravely serving his country.  And it’s different. Don’t get me wrong, sending our spouses off is hard enough, but as mom’s our children are part of us. For their entire lives we’ve been responsible for their safety and been there…