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    4 Simple Strategies For An A-Typical Holiday Season

    One of the greatest challenges I face as a military spouse is being separated from family and friends during the holiday season. It was tough during those first years and deployment but now that we are empty nesters – with children too many miles away – it’s even worse. You see my definition of a real holiday season is to host and attend many different types of parties where we come together with those we love and celebrate the good (and hug out the bad) times we’ve had throughout the year. It’s a time to reminisce and re-connect, and most of all create new memories. Whether it was days of prep for the…

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    Military Life Series: Bulletproof For A Better Military Marriage – Part 3 (Sharing)

    Over the last week or so, we’ve been talking about different things we can do to make our military relationships stronger.  We’ve covered the topics of Trust (Part 1) and Communication (Part 2) and today it’s all about the importance of being able to share the little things. Why? Because: Sharing The Little Things Brings You Closer When we are forced to be separated from our spouses for long periods of time, one of the hardest things that military spouses face is that we all change.  Our kids grow, our spouses learn to cope with the effects of combat and we become stronger and more resilient.  Both you and your…

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    Military Life Series: Bulletproof For A Better Military Marriage – Part 2 (Communication)

    In Part 1 of our discussion on Bulletproofing our Marriages so that they don’t get pummeled by the military lifestyle, we talked about trust and how important it is especially in a military relationship. Today it’s all about communication! Communication is so much more than what we typically think it is.  According to Sandy Fowler, co-creator of the communication product Your 4 Keys[1], when we think of communication we often think of it from a verbal or non verbal point of view.  In fact, the most important part of communication is actually deep within each of us.  It’s the one thing that is “all about you”.  Sounds crazy right, but not when…

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    Military Life Series: Bulletproof For A Better Military Marriage – Part 1 (Trust)

    Why does it often feel like  marriage and happy relationships are a target throughout the military community?  There is an old Army saying which states that if the Army wanted you to have a wife they would have issued one.  Now don’t get me wrong, the powers that be have been working to improve that tired philosophy, but the fact is that the military is our service members number 1 priority.  It may not seem “fair”, but they did take an oath stating that fact and we kind of come along for the ride, which doesn’t sit well with many military spouses. And why should it? I know that when we took our vows…

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    Mother’s Poem: I Will Hold You Always

    Mother’s Poem: I Will Hold You Always by Judy Davis I held you the moment you entered this world, I held you as you took your first steps. I held you as you struggled to ride a bike, And I held my tears as you walked into school that very first time. I held my hands in prayer as you held the keys to my car, I held your heart when it was breaking. I held my breath as you opened that letter, I held my head high when your dream became a reality. I held back my sadness as you began your new life, I held my tongue when you knew more than I. I…

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    Military Life: A Peek into Life Surrounded by Men by Judy Davis

    Do a quick google search and you will reveal more than you ever wanted to know about testosterone. For me I learned this important lesson after my daughter went off to college and I was suddenly surrounded by men.  My home now oozes “male-ness” and being an Army wife with soldiers at every turn doesn’t help. You look around what used to be my “home” and unless I’m mistaken, there has been a definite shift.  It looks different, feels different, definitely smells different and I’m fairly certain that if I don’t do something drastic I very well may be in trouble. I find myself dreaming of pink, hoping to smell perfume rather than dirty socks and…