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    Milspouse Reflections: Don’t Let Your Fear of Change Hold You Back

    Fear of change is the greatest challenge I face as a military spouse and it’s often the thing that holds me back from having a great experience. Change in the military environment used to be a recipe for disaster. You see I like routine, consistency and knowing that my actions will produce the results I am looking for. But change is one of the things that trips many of us up and we all know that as milspouses change is part of our everyday existence.  Whether it’s a pcs, deployment, TDY orders, a new baby, or any situation life throws at us, change is something that we can’t ignore. Over the last 6 1/2  years we have had LOTS…

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    The Key to Find Balance As A Military Spouse

    Chaos, stress, unexpected change. These are some of the biggest obstacles we face when trying to find balance in our life. I can’t tell you how many times my best thought out plans have been ruined because of an unexpected change in my soldiers day. It’s the little things that really send my life into free fall. The cold dinner, missed date night or the sad faces when another promised bed time story was delayed. It was like someone was playing a sick joke every time I tried to find balance to this rollercoaster life. So what is the key that helps me bring things back into some type of equilibrium? Quiet. The key to finding balance in…

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    Military Life: Deployment is a time to choke up and swing…

    Over the last few days I’ve found myself wondering why. Why the upheaval in Iraq. Why did that person share such a thing on social media. Why did she get cancer? Why Why Why…it was like a 2 year old just discovering the world around them and I couldn’t stop it. And then I heard a speaker who shared something that really hit home for me. Something that ultimately put an end to the WHY mantra going on in my head.  She said Growth moves us from “why did this happen to me” to “how can I learn through this experience” Deployment is the one side of Army life that I could do…

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    3 Steps to Getting Your Military Life Back on Track

    Do you feel as though you’ve lost your way? Perhaps it seems as if you’re going in circles and don’t know what to do. Maybe you’re just tired of the same old grind, or know you were meant for more than this. Today, more than any other time in history, people are dissatisfied with their military life. Are things really that much different? Are they any harder? Or is there something else at work? When most people say their lives are a mess, they begin looking for the thing that caused everything to slip away. Was it their finances, their jobs, their relationships, their stress level? Was there a cause at…

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    Stop making a big deal out of the littlest things!

    Most of us only want to be happy.  Ideally our jobs, our relationships, and our leisure activities all help us do so.  But sometimes we let the little things in our military life interfere don’t we? A cancelled family dinner, last-minute duty—even a delay in orders can become such a huge issue that we forget how to live day-to-day stress free. All too often it’s not the major catastrophes, nor the big events that mess things up. It’s really the mole hills we build into mountains that eat at us and weigh us down. Think about your job or your service members schedule.  Is it the big projects that make you…

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    Military Life Newsflash: Your Drama is Toxic

    I just don’t get it. It may be the fact that I have been married to the same man for over 24 years, or that I’m too busy to waste my time and energy on drama, control and unwarranted jealousy, but I’ll never understand the irrational juvenile games that I see in my military life.  Military spouses can be the best battle buddies, we can be strong and independent. But recently I have seen drama that is so toxic that I can’t help but shake my head and wish I could find a way to help them get that this life isn’t just about them – especially for situations like the you better answer…