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    Military Life: Mind Your Own Damn Business

      I think the best piece of advice I ever received came from my grandma YEARs ago. I had come to her to “tattle” on one of my siblings and she looked me straight in the eyes and said simply “MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS”.  I was shocked and didn’t like being put in my place so directly, especially when they were the ones who weren’t listening. For years anytime I heard these words, whether directed toward me or not, I could feel my granny’s disapproval all over again. I hated that phrase…until now. Because now, I get what she meant. With a new “almost 50” wisdom, I am beginning to find clarity in how helpful…

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    6 Steps to Get You Back on Track

    If you have listened, watched or chatted by the water cooler, you have probably had your fill listening to how bad our economy is.  With the stock market on a downward trend, foreclosure rates rising and well everything else that is going on in the world today, it’s hard to get away from it all. This morning I had a conversation with a fellow milspouse that got me to thinking about where my attention has been, and how it has affected my thoughts and actions these last few weeks.  I realized that by inundating myself with the media’s interpretations and predictions of what is to come, I’ve gotten caught up in the negativity,…

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    The Subtle Distinction Between “Get to” and “Have to”

    This weekend was a little out of the norm for my soldier and I.  We usually spend a majority of our Sat/Sundays recharging our batteries, reconnecting and hanging out. But this wasn’t the case these past few days; I’m getting ready for a trip and he is in the final weeks of master gunner school. To say we are CRAZY busy is an understatement.  All I know is that we are both more intense than usual and my soldierman is studying his butt off (btw he could really benefit from some of my stress relieving strategies, but we all know how that goes) . We had veered from our normal routine,…

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    How to Find True Joy

    True joy is found when you uncover happiness with your life right now. Yesterday, I had the pleasure of listening to a very powerful message.  The funny thing was that while it was so powerful, it was also so simple. It talked about how we often hold on to our lives so tightly waiting for the “thing”, the person or the moment that will give us what we need in order to be happy rather than finding joy ourselves. And I really could relate.  I mean how many times to we play the blame game, or wish that someone else would act differently so that we could feel better? The reality is that in any…

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    Parenting: The Transition to Adulthood

    This week has been somewhat like a trip to Disneyland only without the crazy prices for a bottle of water 🙂 . You know how it goes, the weeks of anticipation as you prepare.  The excitement as you see Mickey’s ears for the first time. The full days that leave you exhausted but happy deep inside. The stress. And that comfort you feel when you know that your time and effort was all worthwhile. Yes indeed just like Disney. And like  Disney, I feel as if I’m on a roller coaster. I came to help my daughter and son-in-law move into their first home. The home my granddaughter will come to…

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    Strive for Happy – a Life Tip from Judy Davis, The Direction Diva

    Life Tip:  Strive for THAT kind of happy! There’s much to be said about getting away for the weekend to recharge your spirit and rest your mind.  And really there is no better place than in the Colorado Rocky Mountains.  Every time we are headed up, I can’t help but break into the John Denver Song…..Rocky Mountain High…Colorado (be glad you can’t hear me, because I didn’t receive an ounce of ability on the singing front). My husband and I don’t camp “cozy”, we love the down and dirty, out in the wilderness, no showers, no running water, what you bring in with you, you take out kind of camping.  We go where we do, not…