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    Sometimes You Just Need a Time Out from Military Life

    You may have noticed I’ve been a little quiet lately.  Between the passing of my mother-in-law, supporting my husband, handling military life and dealing with all the feelings of my own, I haven’t had the focus to do much else than the bare necessities. And I have been feeling guilty for taking a much-needed time out from anything that drains me physically or emotionally and just staying in my corner to “reset” myself. The past 2 months took a toll on me in so many ways, but it also taught me so much about myself, my life and the things I’ve done wrong. I guess “wrong” isn’t the best word, but the reality is that since helping take…

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    Lessons and the Unspoken Toll of Military Life

    Sometimes as we traverse military life it can feel as though we live separately from the outside world. We have our own lingo, we take pride in things others take for granted and our day to day challenges are very different from our civilian counterparts. Because of this we need to build stronger coping skills and hone our self care strategies so that we are prepared – especially for the stuff we never see coming. I didn’t realize how much I’d been slacking on both my self-care and coping strategies until recently when we were blindsided by a family crisis that none of us saw coming. 5 weeks ago I went to Florida to…

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    Why People Pleasing Is Ruining Your Life

    Have you ever noticed that sometimes in military life it seems as though every time you turn around someone or something  just keeps getting in the way of your dreams?  It may feel like for every idea you have or action you take there is someone out there telling you it can’t be done or how it won’t work.  They may even share a suggestion as to how to do it “the right way”. After church today, I reflected on something the pastor said that really hit home and got my wheels spinning.  He was talking about the disconnect that we all have when others tell us how we “should” act and what we “should”…

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    Military Life: Are We Alienating The Male Military Spouse?

    I’m inclusive, I reach out to the newcomer, I’m supportive of all military spouses and I love my military life. I’m all of these things; UNTIL I’m not. And today it’s been brought to my attention that without realizing it we have once again alienated the male military spouse. Don’t see it? Neither did I…that is until today. This morning as I was sharing information on a free military spouse event one of my all time favorite military spouse advocates sent me a message with a simple statement. Jeremy Hilton shared: “I’m starting to get the message that men aren’t wanted at these events”. As I read the message I instantly wanted to insure him that…

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    Military Spouse Life: You Are The Glue!

    Last night I attended an event that is part of a week long tradition among the Engineer Regiment. As part of military life and regimental week here on Fort Leonard Wood, military spouse events are as much a part of the weeks powerful lineup as the laying of the wreath ceremony, best sapper competition or the Regimental Ball. And this years Engineer Spouses Night Out didn’t disappoint. While the event was full of laughter and fun it was so much more than that for me – it was a wake up call that I didn’t even know I needed. Up until last night I hadn’t realized that since we PCS’d here to Ft Leonard Wood that I’d been…

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    Military Life: Digging Deep To Find Your Awesome

    Yesterday, after a week away on business, I had the opportunity to do some major people watching at Chicago O’hare. I was exhausted and keeping to myself as I traveled back to my military life when behind me I heard a young couple deep in conversation. I didn’t want to eavesdrop, but I couldn’t help myself, their conversation was so interesting. To sum it up – sometimes we have to dig really deep to reveal our own awesomeness. I don’t know if it was the fact that I was in a sweatshirt and yoga pants sporting a super sexy pigtail or that I was embracing my inner introvert, but I knew awesomeness was so…