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    Military Life: Three PCS Strategies You Need!

    As I pour my second cup of coffee I am torn between cursing the fact that I’ve lost a precious hour of much needed beauty sleep and shouting for joy because spring forward means warmer temperatures are on the way. I should have thought about this whole time change thing last night when we decided ONE more episode (Netflix is like that) because I’m dragging today. And with a mile long to-do list that isn’t a good thing. Who am I kidding – when don’t I have a mile long to-do list? Since we began our military life in 2008 I can’t recall when I didn’t have a list of tasks that is divided into levels of…

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    Military Life: 10 Things Service Members Need to Know – From a Milspouse Perspective

    This past weekend I had the privilege of speaking about military life at a National Guard formal event. I spoke to a group of senior leaders sharing some tips and insight that would not only help them do a better job leading soldiers and their families but will save them a lot of grief when it comes to finding that sweet spot between balancing the mission with their personal life. What was interesting is that so many of them came up to me after the presentation stating that they never thought of military spouses as an asset, nor did they consider many of the points I brought up. Which got me thinking that…

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    Military Life: Using Logic to Handle Change More Effectively

    A while back I had the privilege of attending a recognition dinner where a wonderful speaker talked about how to deal with changes that come up in our lives. Immediately I knew that I could apply her brilliance to my military life in so many ways. For me when things are changing my emotions get the best of me and I struggle to get things done. I wander from “project” to “project” never quite finishing anything to completion.  I can’t think, can’t be productive and certainly can’t focus on much of anything. And then I get more stressed because of my lack of activity. As I listened there were tons of great insights, but two things stood…

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    Are You Ready To Be Happy In Military Life?

    I’ll be the first to admit that when I became a military spouse I had no idea how to handle the logistics, change and stress that came with the military life. I was the epitome of fake it ’til you make it and often made things so much harder on myself than they needed to be.  But over the years I’ve gone from overwhelmed and stressed out to resilient in ways I never knew possible. I have felt powerless and learned to overcome situations and challenges and I’ve become stronger.   At my husbands promotion ceremony the other day I was asked what I do besides take care of my military family.…

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    Stop Living Your Military Life On Autopilot

    Recently I read a quote by the Greek philosopher Epictetus which not only said one of the most powerful things I have heard in a long time but reminded me to stop living my military life on autopilot.  He shared “It’s not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters”.  So simple, but easily forgotten. As we go through our lives we are often on autopilot, and what happens “to us” dictates how we feel and what actions we take.  But shouldn’t we have more control than that?  I mean we all have the power of free will and choice, so why do we “react” to the world rather…

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    The Authentic Milspouse: A Collection From your Favorite Military Life Blogs!

    One of my goals as I navigate military life is to be an authentic military spouse. And every year I choose a word to motivate and push me toward my ideal life. I have been inspired by gratitude, balance, strength and last year I even wrote about Focus and the power that word had for me. Fellow military spouse Jennifer Pilcher of Military One Click also chooses a word and talks about it in a recent piece titled Entrepreneur Resolutions. But what I love most about what she shared isn’t the word, but more the spirit in which she talks about how she came up with it. Raw, real and authentic. And that’s what we have today,…