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    A Simple 4 Step Decision Making Process plus BONUS tips about Military Life

    Decisions. Decisions. Love them or hate them decisions are a big part of our military life aren’t they? The older I get I’m beginning to realize that the decision making process is truly an art form. It’s not the act of just saying yes or no to something, it’s about learning to feel good about the decisions you make that’s challenging. The hardest part of the entire decision making process for me is that moment after I make a choice I start to wonder if it was actually the right one. I often second guess myself and look to others to validate my choice. The decision doesn’t have to be a big one, in fact many of them aren’t, but…

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    Military Life: 20 Amazing Bits of Advice I Wish I Knew

    A few days ago I was chatting with a group of military spouses, a few of whom were in their mid twenties. Our conversation was awesome and we laughed about the craziness of our lives, husbands and the fact that military life is what brought us all together and we shared some incredible bits of advice. I mean where else can you have so many people of different ages, backgrounds, education and careers with so much in common? At one point one of the girls asked me, “what do you wish you would have known when you were my age”? At the time I talked about being a mom and not sweating the small stuff, but…

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    Military Life: Quick PCS Tips For Beating A Challenge You May Have Overlooked

    In military life, PCS season (Permanent Change of Station) brings with it an unexpected challenge that many military spouses don’t think about as we prepare our families to move. Sure we can pack up our goods better than most moving companies, but can we ever have enough quick pcs tips to make things easier for families? When moving cross-country often the last thing on our mind is how we will physically adjust to the new stomping grounds. So in true Direction Diva form, I’m not going to talk about PCS tips in the sense of how to work with the movers or the best way to go about finding out where to get good produce. What I’m talking about today…

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    3 Situations Where You Should NEVER Play The Military Life Card

    Acronyms aren’t the only thing we need to learn when we become a military family. From deployment to frequent TDY assignments there are strategies that help us manage our military life and deal with the home front when our spouses are away. Despite the tips and tricks we develop sometimes even the best thought out plan ends in disaster. I’m a believer in concepts like “it takes a village” and “I get by with a little help from my friends”, but I’m also someone who encourages and lives by a few unwritten rules when it comes to being a military family. I will preface this with saying that there are times when life…

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    Military Life: They Say Home is Where the Heart is – I call Bullshit!

    As I wait for my flight back to Missouri, I can’t help but laugh because the idea that I’m going “home” feels a bit like an oxymoron. Sure when we think about military life, we are told that home is where the heart is and while I am a grow where you are planted kind of gal today, in this moment, I call bullshit. Being far from family and friends makes my life as a military spouse hard. For those looking for my normal positive spin, don’t worry my next military lifestyle post will have some great tidbit that comes from working through it all but for today, my struggle is real. And I’m struggling with…

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    Military Life: 11 Realities Our Community Needs To Remember

    Within the last couple of weeks there has been a huge issue going on within the military community. Some would say it started with an article written by an insensitive reporter who doesn’t get what it’s like to be a military spouse or live the military life. Others would say it’s yet another attack on the  “dependopatomus” image. The issue? Bullying. Bullying and like I’ve mentioned in this post on Gossip – it has to stop. There is a group of people who take every opportunity to bash military spouses calling them whiners who complain to much about a lifestyle they knew would be challenging. Newsflash to these people – even if…