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    Military Spouse Life: You Are The Glue!

    Last night I attended an event that is part of a week long tradition among the Engineer Regiment. As part of military life and regimental week here on Fort Leonard Wood, military spouse events are as much a part of the weeks powerful lineup as the laying of the wreath ceremony, best sapper competition or the Regimental Ball. And this years Engineer Spouses Night Out didn’t disappoint. While the event was full of laughter and fun it was so much more than that for me – it was a wake up call that I didn’t even know I needed. Up until last night I hadn’t realized that since we PCS’d here to Ft Leonard Wood that I’d been…

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    Military Life: 2 Simple Questions That Stop Military Spouse Gossip

    People love to stir things up and focus on all that is going wrong – in someone else’s military life. We live in a society that thrives on reality T.V., gossip and rumors. As a stress relief expert, I can’t tell you how many milspouses’ contact me through the blog or via my facebook page asking me how to stop the gossip and drama that seems to permeate through our community.  There is nothing that frustrates me more than hearing fellow military spouses offer each other up to the gossip mongers. Sadly, the gossip monger reared it’s ugly head right here in my own back yard. Right here on my post. Right here in my military community. Right in the middle…

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    Military Life: This is as “normal” as it gets…

    As I wake up I take a sip of my cup of coffee, and I can’t help but contemplate what has come of my life. Soon after my soldier walks in the door after his morning PT I remind myself just how lucky I am.  He is home, he is safe and for the moment, my  life is as “normal” as it gets. I know that I need to quickly count my blessings and put myself back in check, because it can all change so quickly. Military life is like that. But if I needed proof of the reality of this life all I need to do is check my Facebook feed. One friend is trying to hold it…

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    Military Life: This is as “normal” as it gets…

    As I wake up this morning sipping my cup of coffee, I can’t help but be torn. As my soldier walks in the door from morning PT I’m reminded of just how lucky I am today.  He is home, he is safe. Life is as close to “normal” as it gets. But I quickly count my blessings and put myself in check, because it can all change so quickly, and if I needed proof of the reality of this life all I need to do is check my Facebook feed. One friend is trying to hold it together because her spouse deployed last week and her child is wanting insurance that she won’t leave…

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    Military Life: Mind Your Own Damn Business

      I think the best piece of advice I ever received came from my grandma YEARs ago. I had come to her to “tattle” on one of my siblings and she looked me straight in the eyes and said simply “MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS”.  I was shocked and didn’t like being put in my place so directly, especially when they were the ones who weren’t listening. For years anytime I heard these words, whether directed toward me or not, I could feel my granny’s disapproval all over again. I hated that phrase…until now. Because now, I get what she meant. With a new “almost 50” wisdom, I am beginning to find clarity in how helpful…

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    Military Life: 6 Strategies to Take Away the Sting of Being Apart

    I think the hardest part of military life is being apart. Whether it’s apart from your family, your spouse or your friends it doesn’t matter there is a sting of separation that is all to real. I can’t help it, but on the days when I’m really missing my daughter or just want to hang out with my sisters I tend to blame the military. A few weeks ago I was having one of those days and my battle buddy was busy and I found myself falling down the slippery slope of how horrible my current duty station is. And then I immediately dismissed my feelings, because my soldier isn’t…