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    Save Yourself From Drowning!

    I loved the following quote from Mike Farrow and think it is especially true when it comes to military mental health.  I believe that there comes a point when as a military spouse you realize that if you are going to enjoy this life, the sooner you save yourself and adopt his philosophy of walking away from the drama, the better. His quote states: “There comes a time in life when you walk away from all the pointless drama and people who create it, and surround yourself with people who make you laugh so hard that you forget the bad and focus on the good. Life is too short to be anything but happy”.~ Mike Farrow As a military spouse it’s easy…

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    Military Life Series: Bulletproof For A Better Military Marriage – Part 3 (Sharing)

    Over the last week or so, we’ve been talking about different things we can do to make our military relationships stronger.  We’ve covered the topics of Trust (Part 1) and Communication (Part 2) and today it’s all about the importance of being able to share the little things. Why? Because: Sharing The Little Things Brings You Closer When we are forced to be separated from our spouses for long periods of time, one of the hardest things that military spouses face is that we all change.  Our kids grow, our spouses learn to cope with the effects of combat and we become stronger and more resilient.  Both you and your…

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    Military Life Series: Bulletproof For A Better Military Marriage – Part 2 (Communication)

    In Part 1 of our discussion on Bulletproofing our Marriages so that they don’t get pummeled by the military lifestyle, we talked about trust and how important it is especially in a military relationship. Today it’s all about communication! Communication is so much more than what we typically think it is.  According to Sandy Fowler, co-creator of the communication product Your 4 Keys[1], when we think of communication we often think of it from a verbal or non verbal point of view.  In fact, the most important part of communication is actually deep within each of us.  It’s the one thing that is “all about you”.  Sounds crazy right, but not when…

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    Military Life Series: Bulletproof For A Better Military Marriage – Part 1 (Trust)

    Why does it often feel like  marriage and happy relationships are a target throughout the military community?  There is an old Army saying which states that if the Army wanted you to have a wife they would have issued one.  Now don’t get me wrong, the powers that be have been working to improve that tired philosophy, but the fact is that the military is our service members number 1 priority.  It may not seem “fair”, but they did take an oath stating that fact and we kind of come along for the ride, which doesn’t sit well with many military spouses. And why should it? I know that when we took our vows…

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    The 4 Basic Needs A Military Spouse Must Take Care Of

    I’ll be the first to admit that sometimes being a military spouse is hard. In fact it’s probably one of the most difficult things I have ever done in my life. I remember back to when I first into the military life, it took me a while to get to a place where I could handle the constant challenges of this lifestyle with a bit of dignity, rather than freaking out or having a melt down whenever something new popped up. How did I get there? What was it that helped me the most? Bottom line, once I realized that in order to be the best military spouse I could be, I had to tend to the 4 basic needs a military spouse…

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    Military Life: No Wonder We’re Tired

    You’ve probably seen Army Wives or read a book depicting the adventures of military life, but if you’ve been in the military for longer than a minute, you know that they only tell part of the story. They show the romantic and glamorous side, sprinkled with a little bit of heartache. And a true military spouse knows that they leave out much of the hard truth. They leave out the gut wrenching sobs that finally escape once the kids go to sleep the day he leaves for deployment. They don’t talk about the anxious worry that your soldier will return home and things will be different. They never discuss the…