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    A Simple 4 Step Decision Making Process plus BONUS tips about Military Life

    Decisions. Decisions. Love them or hate them decisions are a big part of our military life aren’t they? The older I get I’m beginning to realize that the decision making process is truly an art form. It’s not the act of just saying yes or no to something, it’s about learning to feel good about the decisions you make that’s challenging. The hardest part of the entire decision making process for me is that moment after I make a choice I start to wonder if it was actually the right one. I often second guess myself and look to others to validate my choice. The decision doesn’t have to be a big one, in fact many of them aren’t, but…

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    Military Life: 20 Amazing Bits of Advice I Wish I Knew

    A few days ago I was chatting with a group of military spouses, a few of whom were in their mid twenties. Our conversation was awesome and we laughed about the craziness of our lives, husbands and the fact that military life is what brought us all together and we shared some incredible bits of advice. I mean where else can you have so many people of different ages, backgrounds, education and careers with so much in common? At one point one of the girls asked me, “what do you wish you would have known when you were my age”? At the time I talked about being a mom and not sweating the small stuff, but…

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    3 Situations Where You Should NEVER Play The Military Life Card

    Acronyms aren’t the only thing we need to learn when we become a military family. From deployment to frequent TDY assignments there are strategies that help us manage our military life and deal with the home front when our spouses are away. Despite the tips and tricks we develop sometimes even the best thought out plan ends in disaster. I’m a believer in concepts like “it takes a village” and “I get by with a little help from my friends”, but I’m also someone who encourages and lives by a few unwritten rules when it comes to being a military family. I will preface this with saying that there are times when life…

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    Military Life: 11 Realities Our Community Needs To Remember

    Within the last couple of weeks there has been a huge issue going on within the military community. Some would say it started with an article written by an insensitive reporter who doesn’t get what it’s like to be a military spouse or live the military life. Others would say it’s yet another attack on the  “dependopatomus” image. The issue? Bullying. Bullying and like I’ve mentioned in this post on Gossip – it has to stop. There is a group of people who take every opportunity to bash military spouses calling them whiners who complain to much about a lifestyle they knew would be challenging. Newsflash to these people – even if…

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    Military Life: 2 Simple Questions That Stop Military Spouse Gossip

    People love to stir things up and focus on all that is going wrong – in someone else’s military life. We live in a society that thrives on reality T.V., gossip and rumors. As a stress relief expert, I can’t tell you how many milspouses’ contact me through the blog or via my facebook page asking me how to stop the gossip and drama that seems to permeate through our community.  There is nothing that frustrates me more than hearing fellow military spouses offer each other up to the gossip mongers. Sadly, the gossip monger reared it’s ugly head right here in my own back yard. Right here on my post. Right here in my military community. Right in the middle…

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    6 Facts YOU Need To Understand About Life As A Military Spouse

    I know that I’m not the first military spouse who needed to understand that certain things just go with the territory of military life. But for a long time I fought it, got frustrated, and was pretty pissed off every time our schedule had to be rearranged because duty called or someone/something needed my husband’s immediate attention. Instead of feeling supported by the military community (and at times my husband ) I often felt betrayed and alone. And my bad attitude and victim mentality didn’t help the situation either. I was the victim of a cruel and unfair joke…It wasn’t fair, and I wanted someone to change it, fix it, and make it right. But when that…