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    Finding Quiet in the Chaos

    Have you ever noticed that when things are crazy and our military life is filled with challenges that everything becomes louder? Our spouse leaves for a training or deployment, and our first instinct is to fill the void with as much activity (a.k.a chaos) as possible so we don’t have to deal with the emptiness they left behind. I know that’s how it is for me and many other military spouses, especially in that first week. I have this mindset that if I fill the emptiness with lots of activity, then somehow I won’t notice that my soldier is gone. It happens almost without thinking. I’m on the phone more, watching TV more, the music is…

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    The Military Family: A Crisis on the Horizon

    I’m out here in the trenches and I’m listening…and from what I see I think it’s time someone starts talking candidly about what’s really going on in our military community before it’s too late. There is a crisis on the horizon and we need someone to stand up and let the country know what’s happening with respect to military life. Perhaps one day this crisis will be over, but for now I’m just hoping that someone will listen. I know if I were to address the nation and every military family I surely wouldn’t start off by saying that the state of our military community is strong; because that would be a lie. I…

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    Military Life: Are you a Reactor?

    Have you ever noticed that sometimes in our desire to hold down the fort, we become our own worst enemy?  I know that all too often, my reaction to military life can rile up the nest faster than anything else. It doesn’t matter if it’s a last minute change in flight times, postponed orders, or a misplaced travel voucher that puts me over the edge, it’s my reaction that determines how we deal with it. I’m the one my family turns to for guidance and strength and  how I react makes all the difference in the world. If I am calm our world is calm, but if I react in a “mom has lost it”…

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    Are you a Reactor?

    Have you ever noticed that sometimes in our desire to hold down the fort, we become our own worst enemy?  I know that all too often, my reaction to military life can rile up the nest faster than anything else. It doesn’t matter if it’s a last minute change in flight times, postponed orders, or a misplaced travel voucher that puts me over the edge, it’s my reaction that determines how we deal with it. I’m the one my family turns to for guidance and strength and  how I react makes all the difference in the world. If I am calm our world is calm, but if I react in a “mom has lost it”…

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    The 4 Basic Needs A Military Spouse Must Take Care Of

    I’ll be the first to admit that sometimes being a military spouse is hard. In fact it’s probably one of the most difficult things I have ever done in my life. I remember back to when I first into the military life, it took me a while to get to a place where I could handle the constant challenges of this lifestyle with a bit of dignity, rather than freaking out or having a melt down whenever something new popped up. How did I get there? What was it that helped me the most? Bottom line, once I realized that in order to be the best military spouse I could be, I had to tend to the 4 basic needs a military spouse…

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    7 Top Tips for Parenting Your Military Child (Because it’s different)

    Many of the parenting “experts” just don’t get what it’s like to be a military family. The fact is that being a parent to a military child is different and they need different coping skills that their civilian counter parts. From the time they are infants, our mil-kids must learn to adjust to new people, situations and environments like no other child does.   They have to learn to make friends quickly and say goodbye too often.  They must adjust to the times when their parent is gone on assignment, sometimes without much warning at all. For military families, birthdays, holidays and special milestones are different and it’s no surprise that you need to have a bigger bag of…