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    The Authentic Milspouse: A Collection From your Favorite Military Life Blogs!

    One of my goals as I navigate military life is to be an authentic military spouse. And every year I choose a word to motivate and push me toward my ideal life. I have been inspired by gratitude, balance, strength and last year I even wrote about Focus and the power that word had for me. Fellow military spouse Jennifer Pilcher of Military One Click also chooses a word and talks about it in a recent piece titled Entrepreneur Resolutions. But what I love most about what she shared isn’t the word, but more the spirit in which she talks about how she came up with it. Raw, real and authentic. And that’s what we have today,…

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    Military Life Series: Bulletproof For A Better Military Marriage – Part 2 (Communication)

    In Part 1 of our discussion on Bulletproofing our Marriages so that they don’t get pummeled by the military lifestyle, we talked about trust and how important it is especially in a military relationship. Today it’s all about communication! Communication is so much more than what we typically think it is.  According to Sandy Fowler, co-creator of the communication product Your 4 Keys[1], when we think of communication we often think of it from a verbal or non verbal point of view.  In fact, the most important part of communication is actually deep within each of us.  It’s the one thing that is “all about you”.  Sounds crazy right, but not when…

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    Military Life Series: Bulletproof For A Better Military Marriage – Part 1 (Trust)

    Why does it often feel like  marriage and happy relationships are a target throughout the military community?  There is an old Army saying which states that if the Army wanted you to have a wife they would have issued one.  Now don’t get me wrong, the powers that be have been working to improve that tired philosophy, but the fact is that the military is our service members number 1 priority.  It may not seem “fair”, but they did take an oath stating that fact and we kind of come along for the ride, which doesn’t sit well with many military spouses. And why should it? I know that when we took our vows…

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    7 Top Tips for Parenting Your Military Child (Because it’s different)

    Many of the parenting “experts” just don’t get what it’s like to be a military family. The fact is that being a parent to a military child is different and they need different coping skills that their civilian counter parts. From the time they are infants, our mil-kids must learn to adjust to new people, situations and environments like no other child does.   They have to learn to make friends quickly and say goodbye too often.  They must adjust to the times when their parent is gone on assignment, sometimes without much warning at all. For military families, birthdays, holidays and special milestones are different and it’s no surprise that you need to have a bigger bag of…

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    Military Life: No Wonder We’re Tired

    You’ve probably seen Army Wives or read a book depicting the adventures of military life, but if you’ve been in the military for longer than a minute, you know that they only tell part of the story. They show the romantic and glamorous side, sprinkled with a little bit of heartache. And a true military spouse knows that they leave out much of the hard truth. They leave out the gut wrenching sobs that finally escape once the kids go to sleep the day he leaves for deployment. They don’t talk about the anxious worry that your soldier will return home and things will be different. They never discuss the…

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    Military Life: The Countdown to Deployment (Part 1)

    It’s happening again…SRP, NTC, POA’s.  All of you fellow military spouses know that the increase in the number of acronyms flying around my house means only one thing.  Deployment is just around the corner. Field time has been intense and yesterday was the first SRP (Soldier Readiness Processing).  I don’t know about you, but even though we haven’t got the official “orders”, SRP and knowing that in just a few weeks they leave for a month of deployment prep at NTC (National Training Center) makes it all real. And this time, I feel like throwing a tantrum.  Yep, laying on the ground, pounding my fists and flaying my legs and just having a fit. I want to…