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    Military Life: 11 Realities Our Community Needs To Remember

    Within the last couple of weeks there has been a huge issue going on within the military community. Some would say it started with an article written by an insensitive reporter who doesn’t get what it’s like to be a military spouse or live the military life. Others would say it’s yet another attack on the  “dependopatomus” image. The issue? Bullying. Bullying and like I’ve mentioned in this post on Gossip – it has to stop. There is a group of people who take every opportunity to bash military spouses calling them whiners who complain to much about a lifestyle they knew would be challenging. Newsflash to these people – even if…

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    Improving Your Life: Lessons From The Geese…

    I don’t know about you but every now and then I think that I have be  able to handle and do everything on my own – especially in my journey through military life.  Whatever the reason, I have moments where thoughts run through my head like “You should be able to do this”, “Whats wrong with you, this is easy for everyone else”, “Don’t ask for help they will think you can’t do it”…..and maybe you have felt this way too. It’s like if I can’t be “Military Super Spouse” that I’m doing something less that what I should be able to do.  Like you, I have lots on my…

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    Military Life Series: Bulletproof For A Better Military Marriage – Part 2 (Communication)

    In Part 1 of our discussion on Bulletproofing our Marriages so that they don’t get pummeled by the military lifestyle, we talked about trust and how important it is especially in a military relationship. Today it’s all about communication! Communication is so much more than what we typically think it is.  According to Sandy Fowler, co-creator of the communication product Your 4 Keys[1], when we think of communication we often think of it from a verbal or non verbal point of view.  In fact, the most important part of communication is actually deep within each of us.  It’s the one thing that is “all about you”.  Sounds crazy right, but not when…

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    Military Life Series: Bulletproof For A Better Military Marriage – Part 1 (Trust)

    Why does it often feel like  marriage and happy relationships are a target throughout the military community?  There is an old Army saying which states that if the Army wanted you to have a wife they would have issued one.  Now don’t get me wrong, the powers that be have been working to improve that tired philosophy, but the fact is that the military is our service members number 1 priority.  It may not seem “fair”, but they did take an oath stating that fact and we kind of come along for the ride, which doesn’t sit well with many military spouses. And why should it? I know that when we took our vows…

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    The 4 Basic Needs A Military Spouse Must Take Care Of

    I’ll be the first to admit that sometimes being a military spouse is hard. In fact it’s probably one of the most difficult things I have ever done in my life. I remember back to when I first into the military life, it took me a while to get to a place where I could handle the constant challenges of this lifestyle with a bit of dignity, rather than freaking out or having a melt down whenever something new popped up. How did I get there? What was it that helped me the most? Bottom line, once I realized that in order to be the best military spouse I could be, I had to tend to the 4 basic needs a military spouse…

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    7 Top Tips for Parenting Your Military Child (Because it’s different)

    Many of the parenting “experts” just don’t get what it’s like to be a military family. The fact is that being a parent to a military child is different and they need different coping skills that their civilian counter parts. From the time they are infants, our mil-kids must learn to adjust to new people, situations and environments like no other child does.   They have to learn to make friends quickly and say goodbye too often.  They must adjust to the times when their parent is gone on assignment, sometimes without much warning at all. For military families, birthdays, holidays and special milestones are different and it’s no surprise that you need to have a bigger bag of…