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    Are You Ready To Be Happy In Military Life?

    I’ll be the first to admit that when I became a military spouse I had no idea how to handle the logistics, change and stress that came with the military life. I was the epitome of fake it ’til you make it and often made things so much harder on myself than they needed to be.  But over the years I’ve gone from overwhelmed and stressed out to resilient in ways I never knew possible. I have felt powerless and learned to overcome situations and challenges and I’ve become stronger.   At my husbands promotion ceremony the other day I was asked what I do besides take care of my military family.…

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    20 Reasons Why Turning 50 Rocks and How You Can Reduce Stress!

    In case you missed the ground moving or the fireworks lighting up the sky…on Saturday I turned 50. Yes I Judy Davis, The Direction Diva am 50 years old, half a century the big 5-OHHH! Some people would be sad, others would find the need to reduce stress  in their life but I did all those things when I turned 35…no 50 – this birthday I am excited about. Not because of my wrinkles or laugh lines, not because of my gravity-challenged body parts and DEFINITELY not because I creek and pop a little more than I used to. However the biggest benefit is that life is easier and… You Reduce Stress When…

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    Military Life: 2 Simple Questions That Stop Military Spouse Gossip

    People love to stir things up and focus on all that is going wrong – in someone else’s military life. We live in a society that thrives on reality T.V., gossip and rumors. As a stress relief expert, I can’t tell you how many milspouses’ contact me through the blog or via my facebook page asking me how to stop the gossip and drama that seems to permeate through our community.  There is nothing that frustrates me more than hearing fellow military spouses offer each other up to the gossip mongers. Sadly, the gossip monger reared it’s ugly head right here in my own back yard. Right here on my post. Right here in my military community. Right in the middle…

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    Living in the Crap May Be Just What You Need to Reduce Stress

    To many times when I am longing to reduce stress in my life I look around and realize that at the core of my stress lies the fact that I just don’t like where my life is at that moment. I’m not talking philosophically but in a more literal sense.  I may not like my house, my carpet, or even the state (or installation I live on).  Sometimes I wish I could just snap my fingers and fix all the physical crap in your life that doesn’t suit you. Believe me I’ve been there, stressed out feeling like I don’t have a choice in my surroundings and it can feel terrible. But it doesn’t have to be, in fact it may be just…

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    Finding Quiet in the Chaos

    Have you ever noticed that when things are crazy and our military life is filled with challenges that everything becomes louder? Our spouse leaves for a training or deployment, and our first instinct is to fill the void with as much activity (a.k.a chaos) as possible so we don’t have to deal with the emptiness they left behind. I know that’s how it is for me and many other military spouses, especially in that first week. I have this mindset that if I fill the emptiness with lots of activity, then somehow I won’t notice that my soldier is gone. It happens almost without thinking. I’m on the phone more, watching TV more, the music is…

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    Letting Go is Key to Reduce Stress

    Letting go. I’ve written about the concept of letting go off an on for years.Next to posts about how to reduce stress it’s one of my favorite topics. It’s one of those topics that I just can’t “let go” of ;). Letting go is hard, and it’s also something that so many of us don’t do often enough. You see for the last few months I know I have been burning the candle at both ends. Traveling ALOT, writing more, working on the final touches of my new book and balancing the explosive growth…I mean I’m even having a hard time trying to keep up on social media! All on top of everything else I…