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    7 Ways to Bring Sexy Back into Your Military Marriage

    Recently my husband and I celebrated our 24th wedding anniversary – military family style. He worked late tending to an issue with one of his soldiers while I sipped on a glass or red cursing military life and the fact that the meal I prepared was going cold. I realize that I’m disappointed but not mad. Since becoming a military spouse I’ve learned that special occasions often unfold very differently than we had planned and I’ve saved myself a lot of grief knowing how important it is to manage my expectations. So I use the time to think back over our lives. It seems like yesterday that we said “I Do”, but a…

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    Military Spouse Life: 10 Tips For A Happy Reunion

    Ok so I will preface this post with a) I love my soldier and  b) we have been married for almost 23 years (so I pretty much have said all of this to his handsome face :). But this week I have had SOOO many spouses and friends ask me if their spouse has “LOST HIS EVER LOVIN MIND” that I felt the need to write about the Caveman phenomenon that does occur within the military community. You see I know that there is some young newly married spouse that is wondering what happened to that guy who walked out the door “missing her already”. What happened to the thoughtful caring spouse who was sensitive to the fact…

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    Bulletproofing Your Military Marriage – The Separation Factor

    Wow, it’s good to be home. Yes it was wonderful to see my sister and brother-in-law and my 3 nephews (family really shouldn’t live so far away – just saying). Yes it was great to reconnect with many fellow military spouses at the AUSA convention and I LOVED “storming the hill” and meeting with my congressman and senators on the issue of dependent access to behavioral/mental health care. But truth be told I missed my soldier. Sure it was “only 10 days” but when trainings, deployments and all things military often cause us to be away from each other it seemed like a very long time. As a military couple we are forced to…

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    Military Life Newsflash: Your Drama is Toxic

    I just don’t get it. It may be the fact that I have been married to the same man for over 24 years, or that I’m too busy to waste my time and energy on drama, control and unwarranted jealousy, but I’ll never understand the irrational juvenile games that I see in my military life.  Military spouses can be the best battle buddies, we can be strong and independent. But recently I have seen drama that is so toxic that I can’t help but shake my head and wish I could find a way to help them get that this life isn’t just about them – especially for situations like the you better answer…

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    Be open to Critics and Feedback!

    Be open to critics and feedback! Sometimes I wonder why when someone is giving us feed back our first reaction is often to go on the defensive.  We feel as if we have done something wrong, and everything in us screams “protect yourself”, “be careful” and our ego wonders “who do they think they are…”. Yesterday I received an email from the publisher who I’ve been working with on my book, and I shared some of the feedback and suggestions with a friend. Instead of reacting the way I had expected they would, the person agreed with the points they made and asked if I really thought if was a finished product when I sent it in the first…

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    Military Life Series: Bulletproof For A Better Military Marriage – Part 3 (Sharing)

    Over the last week or so, we’ve been talking about different things we can do to make our military relationships stronger.  We’ve covered the topics of Trust (Part 1) and Communication (Part 2) and today it’s all about the importance of being able to share the little things. Why? Because: Sharing The Little Things Brings You Closer When we are forced to be separated from our spouses for long periods of time, one of the hardest things that military spouses face is that we all change.  Our kids grow, our spouses learn to cope with the effects of combat and we become stronger and more resilient.  Both you and your…