• The Stress of Priorities…

  • Priorities…Is any one thing really more important than another? As many of you know, my children are grown and we are expecting our first grandchild very soon. So…. in an effort to be pro-active on a business and personal front, I decided to make a list of all the things I wanted to accomplish before I “get the call” and have to leave to go help my daughter  hold that beautiful baby.

    Ten minutes and 2 pages later my jaw dropped and I laughed. No one could accomplish that list even if they had a staff of 5 to help. But the “issue” became a question of what takes priority…and the answer that was stuck in my brain was…well EVERYTHING.

    Spend time with my husband…important
    Project #1 for my business…important
    Project #2 for my business…important
    Social Networking…important
    Product development…important
    Daily Business maintenance…important
    Volunteer work…important
    Personal Growth…important
    Time to exercise…important
    The housework…I guess sort of important

    And the list went on and on and on.

    The fact that in 10 minutes I had an almost impossible list of priority tasks really makes you wonder. If everything is always SO important how can one possibly accomplish anything? And more specifically how can we do it well if we are always worried about getting everything done? The simple answer is that we can’t.

    We can’t perform at our peek, nor can we feel accomplished if there’s always something more important on our plate. I had to laugh when I “got real” with myself.  Bottom line when I looked at my list, although it has the “important” must do items, I realized that I left out things like packing and refilling my blood pressure meds (a definite must have if you are driving 8 hours hoping to get to the hospital on time 🙂 ).  And most of all I didn’t remember to jot down the pack the  “grandma” gifts that I have been collecting and making over the last few months.

    See….not a peak performance at all!

    In thinking about it, everything can’t be a priority, and I’m sure the answer lies in my ability to learn to distinguish between different levels of importance,so I can effectively get things done. But for now, it just feels a bit stressful when I have so much to get done.  I’m not sure how to do that, but I think I need to re-think my list….sigh……another priority…


    ~Judy Davis, the Direction Diva is a motivational speaker, author and entrepreneur as well as a military life and teen suicide prevention expert. Co-founder of DASIUM, Judy’s books Right Side Up  and Warning Signs: Is Your Teen at Riskare go to resources for families and her websites are filled with tips, inspiration and resources for those looking for direction. Connect with Judy at TheDirectionDiva.com

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